Upset Tags

Back to Tags Page

Post a Beg Now!

CANNOT COUNT ON FAMILY

Posted by jasond on 2012-05-22 15:58:53

My name is Jason. I am a hardworking 28 year old married man with three wonderful children 7, 4, and 1 month old, and the best wife anyone could ever ask for. When I and my wife married we were “given” my parents’ home in NY along with the mortgage as a wedding present. My wife and I have spent the last three years renovating this home, dumping every single cent we had into its improvement. We both come from broken homes and both wanted something more than what we came from, and have managed to build a loving stress free environment for our family, and in a matter of a month my “family” (brother, mother and father) have managed to crush our dream out of selfishness and this, “the world owes me something” mentality they all seem to have.
I work full time and also do side jobs on weekends to make ends meet, my wife has been out of work on disability (she will return full time in the next 3 weeks) due to the birth of our son, which should be the happiest time of our life, and yet I get to go home and see my children upset wondering why there uncle is acting the way he is, I get to see my wife cry over the fact that we have been basically reminded that even though we pay the bill and we fix this home and have made it what it never was for me growing up an actual home, that it is not ours and we should have no say over what happens.
My brother who at one time made hundreds of thousands of dollars a year an selfish heartless drug addict, who even though has never treated me or my family with any respect I have always dropped what I am doing regardless of time or place to go “save him”, and by save usually picking his drug addict ass up and making sure he gets home, or dropping what I’m doing to take him to the hospital cause he is so sick from whatever he has taken this time. Now that brother has decided to move in with us, not ask, not offer to help, but blatantly tell me and my wife, “it’s not your house , I am not asking permission to stay here”, and my parents who told me this home was a “Wedding gift” seem to agree. They feel it’s okay for a drug addict to be living among children, that it’s okay that slowly one by one pieces of my wife’s jewelry are disappearing, or that since he came has literally taken over my infant sons nursery with his disgusting belongings that I found my wife sitting on the floor of the living room trying to feed the baby because he’s asleep on the sofa passed out cold and his belonging are strewn all over the house.
My only options are to buy this home that I and my wife have built a great life in so I can say who stays and goes, or to uproot my children and move as far from these selfish disgusting people as possible.
In order to purchase this home I would need a deposit upwards of 12000 which due to me draining my accounts my sons accounts and my wife’s to “save” my brother from jail, drug dealers, etc., we have nothing left. Which has led me here, led me to the point where I feel more dependent on asking strangers for help than my own family because they can’t even help themselves? I am the little brother (youngest of four) who has always had to be the big brother, I am the one one whose entire family drops there problems in my lap as if to say deal with it. I have been the pillar supporting every single family member I have for the last 28 years, the pillar has finally cracked and can’t hold up the weight of the world anymore. I am begging on my hands and knees for help from completer strangers so I can continue to give my children the life I never had, and offer them some stability instead of having to tear them from the home they have come to love, that my wife has come to love, that I love. I want to give my children the world but my family continues to assure that won’t happen under there watch. Please I beg of you with everything I am I need help. Please don’t make us just another statistic, I found my calling and made a life for my wife and children, I have put aside pride, because they are all that matters to me. Thank You for taking the time to read this and thank you for any support or help you can provide.

Cant count on family

Posted by jasond on 2012-05-21 11:58:13

My name is Jason. I am a hardworking 28 year old married man with three wonderful children 7, 4, and 1 month old, and the best wife anyone could ever ask for. When I and my wife married we were “given” my parents’ home in NY along with the mortgage as a wedding present. My wife and I have spent the last three years renovating this home, dumping every single cent we had into its improvement. We both come from broken homes and both wanted something more than what we came from, and have managed to build a loving stress free environment for our family, and in a matter of a month my “family” (brother, mother and father) have managed to crush our dream out of selfishness and this, “the world owes me something” mentality they all seem to have.
I work full time and also do side jobs on weekends to make ends meet, my wife has been out of work on disability (she will return full time in the next 3 weeks) due to the birth of our son, which should be the happiest time of our life, and yet I get to go home and see my children upset wondering why there uncle is acting the way he is, I get to see my wife cry over the fact that we have been basically reminded that even though we pay the bill and we fix this home and have made it what it never was for me growing up an actual home, that it is not ours and we should have no say over what happens.
My brother who at one time made hundreds of thousands of dollars a year an selfish heartless drug addict, who even though has never treated me or my family with any respect I have always dropped what I am doing regardless of time or place to go “save him”, and by save usually picking his drug addict ass up and making sure he gets home, or dropping what I’m doing to take him to the hospital cause he is so sick from whatever he has taken this time. Now that brother has decided to move in with us, not ask, not offer to help, but blatantly tell me and my wife, “it’s not your house , I am not asking permission to stay here”, and my parents who told me this home was a “Wedding gift” seem to agree. They feel it’s okay for a drug addict to be living among children, that it’s okay that slowly one by one pieces of my wife’s jewelry are disappearing, or that since he came has literally taken over my infant sons nursery with his disgusting belongings that I found my wife sitting on the floor of the living room trying to feed the baby because he’s asleep on the sofa passed out cold and his belonging are strewn all over the house.
My only options are to buy this home that I and my wife have built a great life in so I can say who stays and goes, or to uproot my children and move as far from these selfish disgusting people as possible.
In order to purchase this home I would need a deposit upwards of 12000 which due to me draining my accounts my sons accounts and my wife’s to “save” my brother from jail, drug dealers, etc., we have nothing left. Which has led me here, led me to the point where I feel more dependent on asking strangers for help than my own family because they can’t even help themselves? I am the little brother (youngest of four) who has always had to be the big brother, I am the one one whose entire family drops there problems in my lap as if to say deal with it. I have been the pillar supporting every single family member I have for the last 28 years, the pillar has finally cracked and can’t hold up the weight of the world anymore. I am begging on my hands and knees for help from completer strangers so I can continue to give my children the life I never had, and offer them some stability instead of having to tear them from the home they have come to love, that my wife has come to love, that I love. I want to give my children the world but my family continues to assure that won’t happen under there watch. Please I beg of you with everything I am I need help. Please don’t make us just another statistic, I found my calling and made a life for my wife and children, I have put aside pride, because they are all that matters to me. Thank You for taking the time to read this and thank you for any support or help you can provide.
Hi, i'm new to this and i don't really know what to do, please help...
My sister has recently had a newborn baby, she died due to after-birth complecations with her placenta poisoning her, leaving us with a newborn baby girl, no idea who the dad is, funeral costs and need for a bigger house,
please help us by donating so that we can buy the essential baby items we need such as nappies, cot, formula, bottles, clothing, anything. We are a low income family as it is, we have a son of our own and we are trying to find any of his clothes that will fit her but he is nearly 2 now,
we're so upset that this has all happened at once, the little girl doesn't even have a name yet, and we don't know what to do. We'd be eternally greatful if you could help us and our new little girl,

Injured nurse and family need help

Posted by jjhoppy5 on 2012-04-28 15:58:57

Have you ever had one of those years? I am a Registered nurse who was injured on the job more than three years ago, I was on long term disability through the hosptial as they cannot fix the injury and I have permanent restrictions placed upon my license and cannot lift more than 10 lbs no one not even a physcians office will hire me, I found a job six months ago and started working again and as of last week found out they are closing the company on Monday, my husbands truck broke down and we had just started getting things taken care of now my landlord is upset because we are a week late on rent and we are trying to buy the house on contract. She is threatening to take us to court over not paying the rent on time. My husband and I always try to help those in need and could really use the help now we have three children 17-10 and I know I do not have a really sad story to tell but I am just a frustrated nurse who needs a little help to get back on her feet. It took two years to find the first job after injury Lord only knows how long it will take to find another one..... Please help if you can and God Bless those all in need.

help pay bills

Posted by amyj01 on 2012-04-22 09:58:59

hello i would never normally ask for help but im so far behind with my bills at the moment, since losing my house me and my partner have had to move in with our parents again so we never have time together when we do its always arguing over bills whitch is not something we would ever do i have got 2 unsecured loans which i cant keep up with anymore and i have so many payday loans i am not able to get anymore my phone has been cut off and to top it all off we were going through hospital treatment to have children but now we have had to delay until things get better for us. i am only 25 i have a full time job, i really dont want to continue down this road of stress and upset i never would normally ask for anything but i have nothing left to do but ask as i cant cope anymore.

alzheimers shock

Posted by POSITIVITY on 2012-03-31 10:58:52

I live in a third world country and I have done well for myself. I was working on a project that came to an end in November 2012. I have not been employed since. I am a single mother and live with my mother and three children. Because my past job required a lot of travel I opened a joint account with my mother so that when I am away she has access to moneys for the kids. I noticed a few years ago after my father’s death that my mother started forgetting a lot and repeats herself but I just thought to myself it was old age and our doctor stated it was a bit of depression.
But it escalated. I was shocked that while away working one of my kids called to say they have no money. I asked my mom what was going on as I left over EC $20,000 in the account. Upon trying to get clarification I realized my mom was sounding crazy. She began crying and abusing me on the phone saying that I am accusing her of thieving my money after all she does for me. All I was trying to do was understand what had happened to the money so I did sound a bit stern and upset with her. Subsequently my mom’s behavior worsened and she was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, which she has not and does not accept. She hates me for it and blames me for the doctor’s diagnosis.
Since the contract ended we have been surviving on some of my personal savings from another account. I have been job hunting in my country and tried looking for work from home opportunities online. I started writing a novel also to see if I can sell it online. Because of my qualifications and education I never thought I would find myself in such a situation and tried all I could before deciding to try this. I don’t know how I am going to pay the bills or provide food anymore as my money finishes at the end of this month and although I am a Christian and I should have faith. I find myself being very very scared. I try not to let my children know what’s going on. They know our lifestyle has changed but they don’t know the seriousness. They are bright and intelligent and I will not want them to be affected. I thank you in advance for the help you will give me.

Rock Bottom

Posted by POSITIVITY on 2012-03-31 09:58:09

Dealing with the Shock loss of finances due to my moms alzeihmers condition

Financial Help needed......

Posted by divinecharity29 on 2012-03-20 06:58:04

I humbly request you to help me out from my current situation by lending some funds to me. As on date I am mentaly very upset and unable to concentrate on my family life.

Hope you will understand my current situation and lend a helping hand.

God Bless you & your family.

Needing Help With A Baby

Posted by williams2009 on 2012-03-05 22:58:06

My story is different, I make money to pay my bills, and I'm not behind on anything. My problems I make enought to pay my bills but nothing to save. The reason I'm looking for help is because I had to have my tubes tied because I was told I could not have babies do to my sudden heart condition (Cardiomyopathy) They told me I would never be better for the rest of my life and its rare if I even got 45% normal heart. Well its been 9 years later and just taking care of my self and I show no signs of every having a heart condition. Being its makes me upset that I had my tubes tied when I didnt have to...Why were tubes tides they thought pressure having baby make my heart pump faster and kill me and birth control same didnt know how it would effect my heart. Well I have thought love and hard about it and I'm married now for five years and I really want to have a child and its going to cost me $6000,00 to have a child. I'm really looking for help to get to my goal to have this baby..I have have a doctor and my medical records review. If there is anybody that could help me I would be forever thankful.

falling apart

Posted by pandypop on 2012-02-06 13:58:55

Hi people

I wont make this ultra long or at least I will try not to ok :)

My name is Christine,I am Scottish, mother of 4 really lovely kids ranging from 2 years to 14 years.

I have been with their father since I was young (16), I have suffered from depression for a long time and never sought help till about 3 years ago.

My partner worked while I stayed at home and looked after the kids, I tried :)

2 years ago my partner was made redundant, since then he's had some work but its been poorly paid and only short term, we have had to rely on the government for help and let me tell you its been no where near enough!
we own our own home (mortgage) and they wont pay it all while he's jobless and we dont get enough money to cover the rest, we have accrued debt from the mortgage and from most of our other bills.
We have been close to eviction on more than 2 occasions, we borrowed the money from his mum, really great of her, she decided she didn't want re-paid which was awesome, but we only just covered that one event, we are still behind and struggling like crazy.
We are all stuck together in this now cramped house as when we initially bought it, we only had 2 kids!
we dont get out, we dont take vacations or holidays, we dont drink nor smoke and though we'd like one, we dont have a car (we cant even drive).

I am stressed, he's stressed, itsnot a nice atmosphere at home like every single day, the kids argue (older kids), mostly over space and we all argue and shout and get upset.

My oartner has been for many job interviews and so far no success, we are not scroungers, he's worked all his adult life and he hates not working and being stuck with me 24/7.

There are some things that have happened, things that I dont want to mention, personal stuff, breaks my heart.........we just need a break, I have been on the verge of a meltdown, surely it cant just continue?

I anyone is in a position to help not just me but my whole family, then please.....it would be the best thing ever!!!

this is probably the most sincere thing I ever wrote right there.

Kind and warm regards Christine

Highscool valedictorian in need

Posted by JadaBird on 2012-02-06 13:58:48

Last year I thought everything was great when I found out I was co-valadictorian of my graduating class. I thought there was no way I could be in the position I am in now. Immediately after H.S. I enrolled at a community college to take nursing. It took a while to get in, but I thought it would be well worth the effort to become someone who could really do some good. I took all my pre-reqs and got A's (and one B), so when I was accepted to the program I was ecstatic. But nearing the end of the first semester my choice began to look grim. My clinical instructor told me that I just was not the kind of person she wanted to become a nurse, that if I wanted to retry clinicals next semester I could, but it probably wouldn't do any good. She failed me by 3 points! I was so upset. Who was she to play with the lives of hopeful students. I was a full time student and have since applied to several minimum wage jobs, but without my parents' support, I no longer have enough money to sustain myself. I just need a temporary fix until I can figure something out. Thanks for listening.

Isabel's Birthday

Posted by langford39 on 2012-01-27 05:58:30

Hello. My name is Ruth and I have a gorgeous 4 yr old daughter, Isabel. Since before Christmas Isabel has been promised a bicycle (her 1st) for her birthday which is on 16th February. Since then however, our landlord wanted his house back and we have had to move into a new house, and now I have no money left at all for any birthday presents, let alone a bicycle, and every time Isabel mentions it, it breaks my heart because she is going to be SO upset on her birthday. If anyone can help, however small, I would be eternally grateful and you would help put a smile on Isabel's face on her birthday. Many, many thanks. Ruth

Wife is pregnant and both have been made redundant

Posted by PleaseHelpNeeded on 2012-01-25 14:58:43

Please please please help.
My wife and I are expecting our second child in June, and last month were both made redundant from our public sector jobs.
Christmas which is meant to be a joyful time was nothing full of worries for both of us. The more my wife gets upset the more desperate I am, as I know the stress is no good for my wife or our unborn child. We have enough saved up for another two months but then nothing.
Please donate as much as you can and keep your fingers crossed for me, as I'm going for another interview next week.

Wife is pregnant and both have been made redundant

Posted by PleaseHelpNeeded on 2012-01-25 14:58:43

Please please please help.
My wife and I are expecting our second child in June, and last month were both made redundant from our public sector jobs.
Christmas which is meant to be a joyful time was nothing full of worries for both of us. The more my wife gets upset the more desperate I am, as I know the stress is no good for my wife or our unborn child. We have enough saved up for another two months but then nothing.
Please donate as much as you can and keep your fingers crossed for me, as I'm going for another interview next week.

Wife is pregnant and both have been made redundant

Posted by PleaseHelpNeeded on 2012-01-25 14:58:42

Please please please help.
My wife and I are expecting our second child in June, and last month were both made redundant from our public sector jobs.
Christmas which is meant to be a joyful time was nothing full of worries for both of us. The more my wife gets upset the more desperate I am, as I know the stress is no good for my wife or our unborn child. We have enough saved up for another two months but then nothing.
Please donate as much as you can and keep your fingers crossed for me, as I'm going for another interview next week.

Can you help us meet our family?

Posted by thishasgottabeouryear2012 on 2012-01-24 02:58:08

Hi, I'm new to this so please bear with me.....

I am a 35 year old single mother of four beautiful children aged 10, 9, 5 and 5 months. I have a spinal injury that after many tests and consultations with Dr's and Neurosurgeons is inoperable and I now have to just 'deal with the pain', which I do, without medication, as I didn't want to add another problem to my ever growing list of health related issues that stem from the issues with my spine.

I discovered just over a year ago that I have a brother and sister (twins) who are 10 years younger than me. It was a massive shock but since finding out about each other we communicate on an almost daily basis through a social networking site and on skype and it feels like we have always known about each other. My children have no-one apart from myself and my mum and to have discovered my siblings and their children has been brilliant for us all.

We desperately want to go and see my brother and sister and their families but we need to fly and to be able to do so we all need a passport, which, having worked it out, is going to be very costly.

I have managed to find someone I know who falls into several of the categories to countersign our passport application forms so I have managed to save some money there and I have, through selling some items on ebay, managed to raise the money for all the photos to be taken and for copies of all of our full birth certificates, but the actual cost of the passports is proving harder to raise the money for.

I am embarrassed and ashamed that I am having to 'beg' for help but I do not want to go down the route of having to borrow the money from a loan company as the interest rates are astronomical and as desperate as I am to meet my siblings, I do not want to do so by getting us into debt as I spent 10 years paying debts off and we now live debt free, buying only what we can afford. We live within our means, do not holiday; in fact my children have never been fortunate enough to holiday; this is something I feel very upset about as I have many happy memories from my childhood family holidays....It breaks my heart when holiday adverts are on the television.

Any help will be gratefully received, no matter how small as we are all too aware - every penny helps!!

Thank you in advance for reading.

Motorcycle accident..please help

Posted by tadwisn on 2012-01-21 14:58:09

September 2011: Had a nearly fatal motorcycle accident on Lucent Blvd. in Denver. The events leading up to the accident I am unclear of, all I remember is waking up underneith a car and couldnt move. I remember the ambulance showing up to extricate me. Apparently I had a shattered pelvis and a broken humorus. I also sustained another concussion. I never was a big fan of the helmet, in fact very rarely did I wear one. I just happened by chance to decide to wear one that day, if I hadnt I'd be dead. It used to be that I struggled to survive, now I struggle to exist. This account is by my wife:

On September 28th, 2011
My husband Trevan had an accident on is his way to an Interview and he was going on Lucent to get on to the highway on C470 and was not able to see with the dew on the street and sun glare. He didn’t see the car at the stoplights, going on to C470. Didn’t know or see that it was stopped at the light. The sun was so bad that he slammed right into the person in front of him and went over the handlebars of the motorcycle and over the person’s car and was found underneath the car. The Paramedics found him under the person’s car and had to pull him out from under it.

I got a call about 8:15 am from the fire department letting me know that my husband was in an accident. I was so scared I was trying to get my son ready for school and get my daughter ready to so I could take him. I was told that he was taken to Littleton Hospital and that I can call over there and get info on how he is doing. Instead of me calling the ER the ER nurse called me and gave me some info about what they are doing and what ER room they are taking him to. They took some x-rays and he couldn’t be moved because they were not sure about his back. So they did the x-rays in the ER. That is what the nurse told me that they were doing and that he was stable. The nurse also said if I could get to the hospital as soon as I could, it would be a good idea to come since the police and fire department was still there. I told her I would try. I called my mother in law to let her that her son was in an accident and I called my mom. There were other people that I called too. When I got there and I had to park so far in the back of the hospital that I had to ask for directions to get to the ER from the outpatient so I could be there with my husband. When I got there it was very hard to see what he looked like. He had a neck brace on and his left arm was all wrapped up like a present. He had a big gash on the inside of his right leg that was pretty wide and you could see the fat and it kept on bleeding. They would not take off the brace from his neck because they didn’t know what else was going on with him. I met the ER doctors and they told me that he is in quite bit of pain, and that he was starting to not know what happened off and on. I tried to see if he could tell me himself but could not remember. One of the ER doctors was very concerned about the blood in his urine so they took him to another place in the hospital to do some more tests on him. My mom in the mean time called me and told me that she was on her way to be at the hospital with me for support, I told her that I really need some comfort and to keep it together. When she got here Trevan was not yet taken to get tested yet so my mom said hi to him and ask him questions. Then with the ER nurses came in to take him for the tests my mom ask the nurse what kind of test that they were going to do on him and they said it is to check for internal bleeding. When Trevan was taken back we went to sit in the waiting room in the ER. My mom kept asking me questions but I could not answer any of them, because I have not been told about any thing besides what the nurse told me on the phone before I got there. I ask the nurses that were still around they’re about where his belonging were because I needed to know if his wallet and other things like ring and glasses was there. They handed me the beg that had his wallet and other things that they took off of him. I took the beg with me so I could go through it and see if every thing was still with him. His wedding band was in there his wallet was in there and socks and helmet was there too so I took it with me out to the waiting room. There was also a ticket that the police left in it too. My mom took a look at it to find out what all happened. It just said it was his fault but we didn’t think it was his fault, but later on we did fine out it was his fault but we took care of it for him while he was in the hospital. While we were waiting Trevan’s mom came with my daughter to see him but he was still not back in the Trauma room. After a while they finally moved him to a room so we all went there. They took him to the ICU and we had to keep our hands clean at all times coming and going. Trevan was put on many powerful pain medicines for the pain. He was put on dilaudid and he was on that for a while but then he was inching so bad that they took him off of that and put him on morphine he was a little better but still was itching like crazy.

Doug and Jan drove out here on Wednesday night they didn’t stop except for brakes and gas but they drove all the way through so could see Trevan. They arrived at the hospital at 3:30 am. Trevan didn’t remember that his dad and step mom came to see him the first night. I told him twice that they were here and he just didn’t remember it. Every one came to see Trevan everyday Doug and J, Karen and John Hager, Kehli, his mom Beverly. Doug and Jan were here for four days and they were here also for the surgery. We had a lot of people in the waiting room Beverly and our kids, me, and Doug and Jan. I was happy that I had that many people there with me because I was very upset.

October 1st 2011
Trevan had his surgery on both the pelvis and the humerus bone. The doctor started with his pelvis first he said it was the quick one and that Trevan didn’t loose much blood with that one. Then the doctor moved Trevan to another table to do the other part of the surgery. He lost a little bit of blood when they did his surgery on the arm they had to give him two pints of blood. The doctor did come out to tell us the update as he did them and how everything was going. He showed us before and after x-rays. The doctor did a great job of fixing Trevan up. Then after the surgery was done he was in recovery room for about an hour and a half. They moved Trevan to his room afterwards and he still was not doing hot. He kept saying that the room was moving and it made him sick. He tried to keep his eyes closed but it made him even feel worse. He also kept asking for ice chips which I feed to him as much as I could. He was better by the evening, he didn’t feel dizzy any more. Family kept coming to see him and tell him that they love him and pray that he will heal quickly. I stayed with him every night after the surgery to keep an eye on how he was doing. He didn’t remember a lot of things, which in some ways it is good but in some ways it is bad. I think a lot of it had to do with the pain medicine that the doctors was giving him. A nurse told me that it could happen with the medicine could make you forgetful depending on what kind of pain medicine.

October 4th 2011
While Trevan was at the hospital he did fall. He hit his head agents the closet that was in his room. The nurses found him on the floor. They did say that when he fell he landed on his right side and that they don’t think he hurt him self, but he did hit his head when he went down. I asked them if they were going to see if he did any damage, and they said that he didn’t and couldn’t do that much damage because the way he fell. I asked them if he hurt any thing else and the nurse they checked him over and asked him questions and didn’t see any evidence that he had any more damage to what he already had. I asked to if they did any test to see. They said they didn’t do any other tests on him because they didn’t want him to be exposed to any more radiation from the x-ray machine. He was getting out of bed by his self with out any help, which he was not supposed to do that. That is why when he fell they put a bed alarm on his bed so they would know at all times that he gets up, for his safety.

October 5th 2011
During that time while he was a Littleton hospital they were trying to find a rehab place for him so he can start getting back on his feet. They did find one and they had him transferred from Littleton to Porter hospital. Before he left I told him that I would see him later that evening and so will his mom and kids. He said ok and they he was gone. That evening Beverly and the rest of us call daddy from his mom’s phone to let him know that we are coming to see him but we were going to stop and get something to eat on the way up to the hospital. Then while we were eating at Wendy’s he calls me on my cell phone and asks if we were still coming I told him yes. I asked him did you even remember that we called you before and told you that we were coming he said no he didn’t remember. While he was on the phone with me still we asked him if he wanted us to bring something for him. He said yes. We brought him a hamburger and a frosty. When we got to the Porter hospital and got to his room we noticed it was very small and odd shaped. He had a window but in the wrong place or the room was just in the worst place. It looked like a bad shaped L and had no flow to it. I asked Trevan on how he was doing and he said tired and in pain. I said you just been through a lot and it will take a while to heal. Then we gave him is food and let him eat while we also talked to the nurses that were taking care of him there. We also ask that if there was a way for a cot to be put in there so I could stay with him some of the times. They said yes that they will get one in the room the next time I come up to see him. I said thanks. They also had a bed alarm on his bed and his wheel chair that he was using. I am happy that they had that on there but the moment that he got up to use the urinal that the alarm went off. And he didn’t feel comfortable with them always coming in and him not able to potty when he wanted too. When he is in the bed but keep it on when he is in the wheel chair because he could not remember to lock his brakes before he transferred form the wheel >chair to bed or just getting up to stand.

October 6th 2011
Trevan calls him mom to get my number to be able to call me. He talked to her for a while and he also asked if we were coming to see him, and also asked if we knew where he was. His mom said yes she knew and asked him if he remembered that we were the other night. He said no and also said that we weren’t there to see him. Which we were there but he just didn’t remember that we were all there his son and daughter me and his mom. He forgot the entire evening and event that we even were there to see him the night before. His mom said to him that we were all coming to see you again tonight so we will see you later. The same day I went to take our van to get the oil changed in it and found out that there was a clucking sound and they told me that it was not safe for me to keep driving it. They said about a week or two would be all I should drive it. I called my dad and asked if he knew any one that I could take my van to get an idea on how much it would cast to get it fixed. This was all the same day that I was going to see Trevan at the hospital. They didn’t want me to drive it anymore until it was fixed. So Beverly had to take me back and forth to and from the hospital for a while. After Beverly got off work we all got in to the car and drove up to the hospital. We asked the nurses if there was any way for Trevan to watch movies other than watching TV all the time. They said yes and told us there is a TV, VCR that is on a cart that can go into their room to watch movies and only VHS tapes only no DVD’S. So mom went into the lunchroom and looked at all the movies and wrote down all the ones that Trevan would be interested in watching. After she was done she brought the list to Trevan to see and to know that he had choices. Then we went home and told Trevan that we will see him later the next day. Then said our good-byes.

October 7th 2011
There was a lot of thing going on this day that I don’t want to go through again. I had to take my van to a place that my sister in law told me about. I made my appointment with them the day before and they wanted me to bring it back today and get it fixed. They even said that it was not safe at all. I left it with them to fix it in the morning. Then I came back home and had more things to do. I had to run around back and forth using my mother in laws car which was ok she was taking care of my daughter and my niece so I got thing done and I was able to relax a little bit. We all went to see Trevan that evening. We had to go and pick up my van after we picked up dinner. Then we left to see Trevan. When we got there into Trevan’s room he looked really tired and in a bit of pain. We got an extra hamburger so we gave it to him so he could eat it. Of course he at it all up. I changed the channel and found shreck the movie and we all watched that with Trevan. The nurse cam in to see how he was doing. He said that he needed more pain medicine, also needed to have his depends changed. The kids and grandma left outside the room while he was getting changed. After he got settled again the kids came back in and they were getting rowdy so I ask Beverly to take the kids home. They gave their daddy a kiss and left. That night I stayed with him and he kept on asking if the nurse had given him his pain medicine. I told him yes that they did give you your medicine. I asked him if even remembered it and he said no. He asked me 4 other times to while I was there. When it was time for him to have another dose of medicine I said to use the call button that is what it is there for instead of me always running in and out of his room to let the nurses know that he needed more medicine. I stayed with him all night it was very hard for me to hear. When Trevan would fall to sleep he would start dreaming and breathing heavy then wake up crying and then fell back to sleep. It would go on about 5 times at night. I think it was nightmares and when he wakes up he would not remember any of it.

October 8th 2011
The nurses were coming into see how Trevan was doing. He had his breakfast and pain medicine. After breakfast the therapist came in to take him to do some therapy stuff. He worked on the ramp with wheel chair going up and down with keeping control with his feet. The first round was 35 minutes. Then comes back and rests for a half-hour and goes again for 30 minutes. Then he came back and rested and had lunch. Then he went with another therapist and goes and has a shower, but after a while he came back. The nurses told me when they came back with Trevan that the cut on the inside of the right leg came open while they were helping him with his shower. He lost a little bit of blood but it hurt him quite a bit. So two nurses came back. One was pushing him and the other on putting pressure on the wound. When he was back in the room he looked like a ghost, and looked very tired. Then his nurse came in to put a different kind of bandage on his leg. By the end of the day he had color back in his face and was doing better. That day and evening he didn’t know that I was staying with him. I was with him at the hospital since Friday night, to Sunday evening. I will be going home on Sunday night.

October 9th 2011
The nurses and doctors decided not to have therapy because Trevan gave them a scare. So they just let him rest and let the wound heal some more before he did any more. I watched him sleep and he has the bad dreams again all day, and all night. I woke up every time he had the dreams. I counted how many times he would wake up and go to sleep again. It was hard to hear too. When he did wake up I would ask if he remembered any of it. He would say No. I did let the nurses know what was going on with Trevan and also asked him to keep an eye out and check on him. I also asked them to keep a record of it too. I left the evening so I could take care of my kids the next day. My mother in law had to work and had to keep Sarah with me. I said my good-byes. I asked the nurses to keep me in formed on how he did through the night.

October 10th 2011
Trevan told me that he had therapy and that he was in some pain. He was up in the wheel chair and bed. He was learning how to put socks and underwear, shorts and shirt on by him self with out help and doing it all by with one hand. He did OK is what he said. It is hard for him to remember which arm to do in first. The nurses said try to remember left first than over the head than right arm. Then put your glasses on so you can see. He said he would try to remember. Then I went home. He also saw the doctor and asked for Ibuprofen.

October 11th 2011
I got to the hospital to see Trevan about 7ish. He looked tire but also happy to see me. He said to me when I can in “I was wondering when you were going to be here” I said I had to take care of the kids first. In the morning he did therapy then he has lunch and after he had lunch he did some more activities he had u ride outside and played scrabble to get his mind working on thinking. That is what he did during the day when I was not there to see him during the day Trevan had therapy and looked somewhat tired when I got there, he was also in his wheel chair. He ate all the tacos that his mom got for him. After we got done eating he was in a lot of pain. He asked for more pain medicine and he could not get any more ibuprofen. So they gave him percocet for the pain. All we did while I was there with him we talked and watched TV together. Was late when I left to go home and care for my kids.

October 12th 2011
I went to see Trevan about 7ish again. He did a lot of thing in the morning it was all written down so I knew what he did. Which he was to do every day for his memory issues that he has. He had breakfast then he had PT. He did exercises with his legs. ST. tested him it scored 20 out of 25 on the cognitive tests. Then he did some transferring using one leg, 2-½ lbs. on the other leg (right leg all weight and partial weight on the left.) After lunch he did the walker, wheel chair, shower, teeth and hair. All of this info that I keep getting is what he writes down for his memory reminder. I took a look at him and asked him how he is doing, He said he is in a bit of pain. A lot of pain was mainly in the arm. He asked for some pain medicine and he started to fall to sleep. So I told him that I would head home and take care of the kids. He said to tell them that he loves them. I said ok.

October 13th 2011
Just reading his report that he wrote. He did getting in to his wheel chair to go to the toilet, Independence Square and weight. That was his activities during the day and he also had another stitch pop and his leg started bleeding again. That is what he told me. It is covered with gaze. I was happy that they did put that on there to protect it better. He has been sleeping better. They aren’t using the walker with the plate form because of his bad left arm. He is balancing so much better on his right leg which I am very proud of him. I noticed while I was there he didn’t remember that he had his pain medicine which they did give it to him. But they could not give him any more until 9:15 PM. And it was about 8:20 PM when he asked for more pain medicine.

October 14th 2011
Trevan woke up around 5:45 am having pain in his arm and needed to be changed. Found out that Dr. Bess has not released him from putting more weight on his left leg. It will be 30% weight for a while. At a little bit after 9 this morning went for a wheel chair walk. He sat in the wheel chair and used his right foot to move him forward and his right hand also help him to move forward in the direction that he needs to go. He went around the hallway twice. Then after he did that he came back to his room, so after that another person came in and took him down to the shower. Both of us were in the shower room with the nurse getting him ready and helping him stand only on one leg. He could not put much weight on the left leg. After every thing was off the therapist helped him sit on the shower/ tub chair. We both helped him get cleaned up, but we made sure he did most of the cleaning up. He did well at listening to me and stayed seated until we needed him to stand to pull up his pants. He only used his right leg to stand on and his right arm to pull up. I told him if he comes home he is going to have to listen and wait until I can come and help him. I didn’t want him to fall again and end up in the hospital again. After the shower we went back to his room to rest for a few minutes. Then he went to do more moving therapy. He did hopping on the right leg and using the parallel bars with the right arm to and from the wheel chair. Then he did some bumping up and down on the stairs. They would not do any more of them for a while because it tired him out so much. We did not know when he would be able to come home yet. We were going to have someone come by to take a look at the house and see if he can come home. Right now it is set for wed. But it is not set in stone. I am planning to stay the night again and leave about 8:15 am to watch my daughter. Then I will be back to stay with him again that evening.

October 15th 2011
This is what Trevan did for the day, leg/ hip exercises, control wheelchair up and down ramp. ST- did memory strategies, put a picture with info, and writing down notes. OT- watched him do his brushing his teeth, getting dressed, independence square (cashier, shop, and sandwich) memory. That is what he did and also found out he has a urine infection. He slept a little bit, was up having to go to the potty all night, had to remind him mot to put any weight on his left leg. He said that he was not but I doubt it. I was watching him. After he was done he was always putting weight on the left leg every time he pushed his butt back in the bed. I am very worried about that. I did tell the nurses to keep an eye on him that he was having issues with him having to pee all the time. Since he had the infection. They said that they would keep watch and see how he does through the night.

October 16th 2011
Trevan had a bad day at remembering this day. I just don’t remember what he forgot because I was also very tired this day also.

October 17th 2011
We brought Trevan home to do the home inspection so we could find out what we all needed to do and what to get for the house, so Trevan can come home. We didn’t want him to get injured any more than what he is now. When we got to the house the two nurses had to lift him and the wheel chair up the stairs since we didn’t have the ramp up quite yet. We did tell them it would be up once we know what day we could get help. While Trevan was still sitting in the wheel chair he had to use the restroom. He did try to get in the restroom which he did do just fine, but when he was ready to get back out and into the wheel chair he almost fell in to the wheel. So they deiced not to have him use the small bathroom.

just living

Posted by imathome on 2012-01-14 08:58:46

hi there i,m carol i love my family very much and am sad that i have to beg for money my husband is a hard worker and proud he would be upset that i even had to come on i am feeling very low my 9 year old and his dad are the other two in our family the money he brings home don,t meet the every day bills i,m 50 ill and unable to work but not afraid to work if i could do home work we are drowning in every day bills and if you go to welfare they say we are just in the middle ground where we can,t get help i worry cause it makes me un happy that my son will see i,m unhappy cause i don,t know what to do i know there must be and is people off than us but if you could spare money for electricity or food etc or school uniform i would be so so grateful we are always ready to help people if it don,t entail money so i hope there are people out there that are simular to us but can spare money thankyou and god bless and carry you forward for a long happy life.

Twin Sister Desperately Needs My Help, Let's Surprise Her This Mother's Day!

Posted by twinneedsmyhelp on 2012-01-13 19:58:24

Dear lovely person who is reading this,

My twin sister desperately needs my help, but I'm in poverty and I have medical issues. I'm having a really hard time giving her much help.

First off, she is barely 21 years old and such a beautiful, lovely young lady. She always, no matter what, tries to be good to everyone, no matter what she has been through, and she has been through a lot. She has a lot of talents, including singing, songwriting, journalism, and poetry. I love my sister!

Unfortunately, she just became a struggling single mom with a newborn baby. She loves her beautiful baby so much and cares so much for him. If I ever have a baby, I wish I could be as strong and caring of a mom as she is. She puts her whole heart into his care.

She's been through a lot in the past year as well. Before she became pregnant, she was hit by a car and lost her job, all the while being confronted with huge medical bills. She can walk now, but has a permanent weakness in her leg and it hurts sometimes for her.

She now has absolutely no support from the father, and thankfully, he is out of the picture due to incarceration. I was aware of the fact that he was always a little "off", but she recently revealed many secrets to me, and he was aggressive and very emotionally abusive to her. He even stole from her! He hurt her very much.

She's staying at my mother's, which, is normally a good thing, but, this is NOT a good situation she is in. It is not very safe, constructive, or loving at my mother's. I worry for her being alone and having been through so much. I know she feels so upset, and it pains me that I can't be by her side. I also worry that the father might try to come back and hurt her if he gets a chance. She is stuck there and she needs to get out, soon.

So, dear stranger, my sister needs your help. She wants to do so much for the world, go to school, learn a lot, and contribute to society. She has a lot of dreams. She just needs that jump start. She needs to get started first.

Please, if you would take a moment and donate something, she would appreciate it so very much. Everything will go towards her beautiful newborn baby and her enrichment, and hopefully a few counseling sessions for the pain she's been through. She needs all the help she can get.

Once I am done collecting donations, I'll surprise her with the donations received on this Mother's Day. She'll be so surprised!

***If I get over $300 in donations, I'll buy a post that allows video, and on Mother's Day I'll post a video of the surprised lovely young lady!***

Sincerely,
A twin sister

Urgently Needed Funds - Please Help

Posted by LadyLost84 on 2011-11-21 23:58:50

I'm a 28 year old female, who recently married only to find my husband had racked up a large number of debts in my name to the tune of $205,000. I had to sell my home and have been left with debts to the tune of $22,500. My problem is that because he racked up the debts in my name, no bank, lender etc will look at an application. I've sold most of my furniture and have cut back to one small meal a day. I know there are people worse off than I, but I ask if you could please help then I would be most appreciated. It has been 10 months since I found out, I try not to be stressed or upset, but it has been devasting.

Young Heart Patient And Family Needing Help

Posted by TSALBRIGHT77 on 2011-11-17 19:58:59

I WOULD LIKE TO SAY THANKS FOR TAKING THE TIME TO READ MY POST. I AM COMING TO YOU BROKEN HEARTED BECAUSE I AM HAVING TO ASK FOR HELP FOR MY FAMILY AND I. THE REASON WE ARE NEEDING HELP IS WE ARE HAVING TROUBLE PAYING OUR BILLS AND TROUBLE BUYING MEDICINE. WELL TO START OFF MY FAMILY IS LEAVING IN A 3 BEDROOM HOUSE THAT MY PARENTS ARE TRYING THEIR BEST TO WORK AND PAY OFF. IT'S 5 ADULTS IN THE HOUSE. MY BROTHER SLEEPS ON THE LIVING ROOM FLOOR. I HAVE A ROOM, MY SISTER HAS A ROOM, AND MY PARENTS. ITS ANYWHERE FROM 5 ADULTS TO 7 CHILDREN HERE AND THEY SLEEP ON THE FLOOR.ON THE WEEKEND. IT WAS JUST MY PARENTS AND I LIVING HERE BUT SOMETHINGS HAPPENED AND MY BROTHER AND SISTER HAD TO MOVE BACK AND MY SISTER IS EXPECTING HER FIRST CHILD IN APRIL. THE REASON I WAS BACK HOME IS I HAD A HEART ATTACK IN JULY 2010 AND MY MAIN ARTERY WAS BLOCKED AND THEY HAD TO PUT A STENT IN AND I STILL HAVE SOME BLOCKAGES BUT THEY COULDN'T CHANCE UNBLOCKING ALL THEM. MY HEART FUNCTION IS ONLY AT 35 TO 40% WHICH MAKES IT KINDA HARD FOR ME TO DO MUCH. I AM ON MEDICINE FOR DIABETES, HIGH BLOOD, HIGH CHOLESTROL, HEART DISEASE, IRON, DEPRESSION, AND A FEW OTHER THINGS. I DON'T HAVE ANY INCOME COMING IN SO IT MAKES IT HARD TO GET MEDICINE. I HAVE TO DEPEND ON MY PARENTS FOR SO MUCH AND THEY ARE STRUGGLING THEMSELVES. THEY DO ALL THEY CAN TO SUPPORT US IN ANYWAY THEY CAN BUT ITS GETTING HARDER AND HARDER FOR THEM. MY MOM IS ALWAYS TAKING OFF WORK TO TAKE ME BACK AND FORTH TO MY DOCTOR APPOINTMENTS BECAUSE I CAN AFFORD A VEHICLE WITHOUT HAVIN A JOB. WE ARE A FAMILY THAT NEVER LETS OTHER KNOW WHEN WE ARE IN NEED AND IF WE WASN'T IN NEED i WOULDN'T BE E IT TO WRITING NOW. MY MOM MAYBE UPSET IF SHE FIND OUT BUT I AM TIRED OF US STRUGGLING. SHE IS QUICK TO HELP OTHERS EVEN WHEN SHE REALLY DONT HAVE IT TO GIVE BUT SHE WILL FIND A WAY EVEN IF THAT IS HER LAST. WE ARE CHRISTIANS AND BELIEVE ME I AM NOT THE TYPE OF PERSON TO LIE ABOUT SITUATIONS LIKE THIS. I KNOW OTHERS OUT THER WORSE OFF THAN MY FAMILY AND GOD IS LETTING US GO THROUGH THESE TRIALS FOR A REASON. WE ARE JUST IN THE NEED OF SOME BLESSINGS. MY PARENTS BILLS ARE ATLEAST 2 MONTHS BEHIND ON EVERYTHING. I HAVE A BILL WITH MY HOSPITAL ABOUT $13,000 FROM WHEN I HAD MY HEART ATTACK AND THE BILLS KEEP GOING UP BECAUSE I HAVE NO MONEY TO PAY TOWARDS MY BILLS EACH TIME I GO AND I GO ATLEAST ONE A MONTH. MY MOM WORKS A FULL TIME JOB AND MY DAD A PARTTIME BUT THAT'S NOT ENOUGH MONEY COMING IN TO KEEP THE BILLS UP. MY PARENTS ARE LIVING PAY CHECK TO PAY CHECK. I AM WILLING TO PROVIDE ANY INFORMATION THAT YOU MAY NEED IF YOU ARE WILLING TO HELP US. I JUST WANT YOU TO UNDERSTAND THAT I HAVE NEVER DONE THIS BEFORE AND PRAY I NEVER HAVE TO AGAIN BUT I AM JUST TRYING TO GET HELP FOR MY FAMILY.

MY NAME IS TAMEKA AND IM 34. THANK YOU AND GOD BLESS YOU IN ALL YOU CAN AND WILL DO.

I just came out to my family

Posted by tns14 on 2011-11-12 16:58:50

I am 15 years old, female and just came out to my family tonight and they kicked me out. I don't have any friends who can let me stay over so I came to starbucks to post this on my laptop, it's all I have. I don't have a job and don't know what to do for food. I'm super upset and alone, I can't believe this is happening to me, I should have known they wouldn't accept me, they are very religious. Please if u could donate whatever you can so that I may have food tonight I would appreciate it. Thank u

Tuition Troubles (cont.)

Posted by mymya19 on 2011-11-11 21:58:10

Hello again. I am the author of the post titled Tuition Troubles and am here again posting another ad about my problem of trying to find a way to pay for tuition coming up in the spring. If you have not read it yet, please do and then come back and read this one.

I have gotten more and more desperate to find some help. On top of everything I said in my last post, I have recently found out that this college stock my mom was counting on to give me a little help with my tuition is almost worthless now. She had been hoping that the economy would improve and the stock would gain money, but now it looks like this is not to be. She had kept this from me until now because she didn't want to upset me. I don't know how I will ever get to go to college now. I will feel so horrible if I have to take out big loans with their interest rates and then have my parents spend their retirement money on it. 

If there is any way you can donate something I would very much appreciate it. Also if you have any information on the least expensive student loans or other ways I might be able to receive help besides financial aid or earn large sums of money fast or know anything that might be some help to me please leave a comment. Thanks for reading and for your help.

NEED HELP WITH CAR

Posted by slamb1 on 2011-10-20 20:58:35

I'm in desperate need of help. Four years ago, I graduated into recession, I got temp job but I needed reliable transportation. So, I got 2004 Chrysler Sebring, it was practical car that took care of me and I was able to take care of the payments.
Consequently, my life went downhill because after February 2009, I got laid off and I got hurt and had to get on disability for a year. When I got healed, I look very hard for employment with determination and persistence I found a part time job at Denny’s in August 2011. I was happy about it because my unemployment exhausted in July of 2011 so it was blessing. But until then I was able to take care of my car payment because unemployment gave me enough to take care all of my bills.
Sadly, I work 8 hours a week for $ 8. So, I’m only receiving $200 a month to pay for all my bills which is impossible. As you can see even with this job I'm in jeopardy of losing my car I have 25 more days until they repossess my car. I pleading for you to help me because I cannot lose my car I still it need to look for more employment and to take of business errands. I already paid 16,280 I have another 9,000 to go. I tried refinancing, trading it in, or giving it to someone else but my efforts fail due to my bad credit and low income. I'm very depressed and upset that I can't take care of this car loan. I been trying so hard to keep this car and don't want to let it go. Please help me you are my only hope in keeping my car. Please respond as soon as possible before its too late. Thank you for your time and patience.
Sincerely,
Shakia

Please Help Us

Posted by iffer on 2011-10-05 09:58:18

My husband and I have been struggling to make our monthly bills, we just lost our 13 year old kitty Sebastian, we were completely upset! We are expecting our first child and would like to be able to provide everything they need. We are looking for the kindness of others to help us get out of this, so we may start off fresh. So then we may, in turn return the favor to others in need by PAYING IT FORWARD. Thank you for your kindness (ANGELS) if you could please donate just $1 if would make all the difference.