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Some moths ago, I came home from a normal day at work, happy to see my two little boys (Josh 3 and Liam 4 months) and what I used to consider my better half. I walked in to find the house empty - no note, no indication of what had happened. I toyed around with calling the police, but it was clear this wasn't a missing persons case, or a robbery or anything else other than what it was. Everything was gone. Phone disconnected, bank accounts cleared out, credit cards closed. Suddenly it was me, the house and the car and nothing else. After a few days of searching, talking to family, friends and yes even filing a police report - not they cared much - I discovered I had been dumped for a guy my wife had been seeing for months. We has only just signed the lease less than a month before, and I thought we were really happy together. There were no signs - nothing that I saw at least. This really isn't the part that hurts, I can live with all this; it's her life and her decision. What really hurts is not seeing my boys.

During the first few days I didn't work, too busy trying to piece together what had gone on and why and how it had come to this right under my nose. The rent still needed to be paid, even though the house was unfurnished and too big for me alone. I was (and still am) locked into the lease! Problem number one.

Problem number two is rather more complex. Last Friday I received two letters. The first from a solicitor (our version of what you would call a lawyer) informing me of divorce proceedings and the second was sent a letter from the Child Support Agency informing me my wife is seeking child support payments from me. Now, I'm no deadbeat dad! I think all parents should pay for their children's needs but here I am - rent on a house I don't need, no furniture (some friends have lent me a TV and cooking utensils and a couch), no money to contest the proceedings and on top of that she wants me to pay child support while she's shacked up and living a 'normal' life with my boys, whom I haven't seen since.

I've seen a solicitor who advised me he wouldn't bill me for the first meeting - we talked about the situation, and what he could do from here... It requires more than I have, to achieve what I want and what I think is fair! All I want to do is split our assets 60/40 her favour (she has the kids). Get out of this lease that I'm legally locked into, and get shared custody of my beautiful little boys. Problem is she has the assets and without a court order to either return a portion to me or divest herself of some of the assets so I can be compensated, I can't pay a solicitor and barrister to get the money to do all this. Once it's all settled I'll happily pay my child support requirements, see my boys and leave her out of my life, seeing that's what she wants.

My solicitor has told me I could be up for as much as $10,000, but $6000 should be a good starting point. His firm wont proceed without knowing they'll be paid - fair enough, but what's a man to do in this situation?

I am literally begging for $6000. I haven't wanted for anything in my life - I've always worked and worked hard for what I had, but when it's all taken away from you, you realise how vulnerable we all are. I'm pledging that whatever I receive from this site that's not used in the case, I will pay forward, to another needy soul from this site. Please help... My heart and thanks, and that of my boys will go out to you.

Update: 6th Jan 2012. I've managed to get the proceedings heard at a later date, due to my personal situation. But nothing has changed. I still don't have the funds to fight this and to date not one response to my plea for help. I'm begging - literally for some assistance. I haven't seen my boys since December and I can't fight this without your help.

Update: 25th May 2012
I have nothing to fight her with. No funds, no will and no motivation. The house has been re-leased and the owner has started legal proceedings against me, I have nothing but what she left me. I am trying my hardest to provide some money for my two kids - that I haven't seen since December. I can't go on like this. No-one can!

the bank want the house back we are month behind in payments I cant work got hurts at work have a bad head injury trying to raise 3 boys with
l&I money dont work help please anything a few bucks for food would be nice thanks all

Greetings,
I'm a single parent, who fleed from domestic violence- having to quickly store my furniture and children items in florida. I've been making payments up till now, I'm not currently working although I'm deligiantley looking. I have not make my payment of 165.00 per mth for april and may and now june is approaching quickly. Ny belongings are up for auction this 25th of May. I will make june payment if the prior are made or they will not accept it and the late fees will continue and of course i lose everything. I really need my furniture when things pull together for us, and losing them for 500.00 dollars hurts deeply. If there is anyone who can make this payment for me the storage company is cypress self storage acct. 4153, their number is 239 287-2566. they accept pymnt by phone as well. I thank you in advance

Hi,

It's so hard to come on this site and ask for assistance, but when you have four small kids you have to do what's best for them. My husband is the only one working Full-time and I am not able to go back to work due to the expenses for childcare. We have an 8 yr old son, 5 yr old daughter, almost 3 year old, and a 4 month old son. With just one person working, each month we are living paycheck to paycheck, but having to get loans and when my husband gets paid all of our money is gone. My heart hurts for my family because I have to see us struggle and not have. There are many times that we don't know where our next meal is coming from or how my husband will get to work in order to pay bills and support us. I have tried working online but have been unsuccessful. Each time though God has provided for my family and we are still blessed. Please if anyone can help my family out. We really need you. Thank You, Heather

Hi,

It's so hard to come on this site and ask for assistance, but when you have four small kids you have to do what's best for them. My husband is the only one working Full-time and I am not able to go back to work due to the expenses for childcare. We have an 8 yr old son, 5 yr old daughter, almost 3 year old, and a 4 month old son. With just one person working, each month we are living paycheck to paycheck, but having to get loans and when my husband gets paid all of our money is gone. My heart hurts for my family because I have to see us struggle and not have. There are many times that we don't know where our next meal is coming from or how my husband will get to work in order to pay bills and support us. I have tried working online but have been unsuccessful. Each time though God has provided for my family and we are still blessed. Please if anyone can help my family out. We really need you. Thank You, Heather

I am a father and a husband to a family I love dearly. I lost my job due to an unexpected layoff and I'm going to school to educate myself for my family. My wife is trying to hold down 2 part-time jobs while raising our children and managing the home.
It hurts me to see her go through this and all I've evr wanted was to give her a good life. The bills are piling up and the stress is getting to our marriage. If anyone can help us, please, we would be forever greatful, and God Bless.

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I never thought that I would be in this position but I am begging and crying for help.

I am a retired military service member, my daughter is a 9 year honorable discharged veteran. We share a home with her 2 daughters.

Due a tax lien I was unable to pay my rent for April and now May.

Neither my daughter nor myself seems to qualify for all the vet assistance programs because we did not deploy to areas such as Iraq or Afganistan. We stayed home and took care of the family members of the personnel that did.

It hurts not to be able to take care of my family as I should.

Is there anyone out there that can please help.

Thank you for listening

Thank you for reading. I'm a 25 year old female looking for a little help from others towards rebuilding my life. A few months ago my fiance took his own life at our house while I was out of town visiting family. I still to this day have not been able to go back to our house to get any of my belongings. The police will not respond to e, neither will victims services. The estate and all of my belongings went to his parents, who blame me for his decision to end his life. It hurts because I was by his side trying to get him help. I was told that the parents discarded everything of mine to make it look like I had moved out so that I would not receive anything from the estate. I lost my car, clothes, personal belongings, furniture, memories of my fiance and all of my paperwork as well as my job, because I couldnt go back. I am asking for donations to help me with food, clothes, shelter, car for work, and to help hire a lawyer for losing everything that I owned. Not one lawyer will take my case for free. With this help I may be able to fight for compensation from the estate and with that money, will go back to school for councelling. I wish to help those who are contemplating suicide, and who are victims of it like me. Again, thank you for reading. This is 100% true story and Im still fighting with the police to this day, wondering why I was never given the option to go back to my home to get my things. Or why they didnt investigate as to what happened to them. Thanks.

I’m an ordinary Grandma who would love to visit the Grandchildren I have never seen. We have worked hard all our lives but a combination of ill health, the recession in the UK and being unable to obtain work, primarily because of our age, we are struggling financially. Everything started to fall apart 4 years so when my husband became ill; I became ill 18 months later. He lost his job & has been unable to obtain another. My illness prevents me from being employed. I have still the last 4 years tried to run various businesses on the internet but with no success & our old age pensions (mine was due next year) have been put back by the UK Government for another 4 years.

We have 2 grandchildren we have never seen. They live in Portugal with my daughter & her husband. They are poor & struggling too so they cannot come to the UK nor pay for us to go there.

The cost of 2 flights from the UK to Porto or Lisbon will be around £800 for both of us. The cost of car hire (we need to hire a car to as they live in a tiny village inaccessible by public transport a couple of hours from the airport) is around £600 for 2 weeks

The first 2 weeks in August would be a lovely time to visit as they are on holiday from work & school.

I would so love to see my grandchildren, play with them, hug them. It hurts not seeing them more than I can say.

My husband says I’m wasting my time but I believe that there are good, generous people around who will help just as we have helped other people in our good times.

Could someone please help this old Grandma & Grandpa so they can see their grandchildren at least once. Any donations would be wonderful.

Thank You

Here I am, 42, single with 2 children, ages 10 and 12, and struggling. I got my first eviction notice in my entire life in 2/2012. I pray it is my last.
I have narcolepsy and HBP hovering between 180/110 to 211/127. I lost my health insurance at the end of April 2012. I have about 2 weeks of medications remaining.

What am I doing? I do contract work when I can find it. I baby sit and take a friend's child to school for a little money when I can. I get $500 in food stamps and $600 in child support. I have been working on my graduate degree part-time for 4 years. Now, working on the required 600 clinical hour requirement for my degree. It is sooo hard to find work, have child care and do 25 hours of unpaid clinical work, especially when you need affordable or free child care.

I need help to pay rent and buy medication. Right now, I have no employment income at all. Wow. It hurts to see it in print. How much? $6000 would sustain us until my December graduation. However, my narcolepsy medication costs $250 a month and today, gas is $3.80 a gallon. I live as cheaply as a can. I am not in any position to choose when all I have are needs.

I dont want to be this close to completing my degree, only to drop out so we can survive. Please help us. Please. If I can get through these 600 hours, and we have somewhere to live, a car to drive so I can work and we eat, I will be so grateful.

I am a single mother who is in great need of financial help. Worked all my life, and now I need help, no one is helping, and it hurts. I do not want to get evicted, because I'm worried about my 2boys, and my 2dogs...Life sometimes Stinks....WOW

I HAVE TWO LITTLE BOYS. I am a struggling mother who has lost everything. I was evicted from my home last month and had to check in at an extended living place that I can not afford. I was let go at my job today because I couldnt afford transportation. Now I have no home, no job, no transportation, and I dont have any mother or father to help me. I am also unable to feed my children...this is what hurts the worst. Its traumatizing telling them each day there isnt any food. Im ashamed of not being able to provide. PLEASE HELP US.
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I am 19 years old, getting kicked out of my parents house. They want nothing to do with me. I have been trying to get a job for over 2 years now but I have health problems Id rather not speak of. SSI is something that could be an option but I dont want to live off of the system. I have a lot of problems and a lot of depression and stress. Ive dealt with things all my life that I should not have. Ive see things I shouldnt, and I am really messed up. I always wanted to be the one to help people and I am not the kind of person to ask for help, It hurts that I have to. My friend is 16, and she is getting kicked out too. Her mom doesnt want her, and she told me she is signing custody of her over to me. We have been going to different houses every week to stay.. Sometimes with people we really dont know. Were worried, and scared and we really need someones help. We need help! We want money for a house, someone is willing to sell their house to us for 400 a month, not including utilites. Plus the down payment. We also need money for food and other supplies or clothing we may need. This wouldnt be a forever thing. Just until we can get on our feet and do it on our own. Please.. we would apprieciate it. We really need the help. Someone help us before its to late.

I'm a young female and I'm desperate in getting plastic surgery! I'm not looking to get anything like breast implants... I'm looking to get reconstructive surgery for my face. For a long time I've always wanted to get this done but never could afford it! It's not like I'm trying to look perfect or anything... this is something that I truly need! With this problem that I have I have extremely low self-esteem and still suffer from depression because of my looks.... even contemplated suicide! There are times I feel like I can't even leave the house because of how I look. Even strangers look at me and stare and make rude comments sometimes... it really hurts... especially when they don't even know me! I want to be able to work and have a normal life like everyone else, but right now it's really hard for me to do. It's easy for people to say "you should love yourself the way you are" but if you have people always reminding you how ugly you are, it's not that easy to be confident and ignore what people say. I know if I have this surgery done it will really help my confidence in a big way! I know my life will never be perfect but I know that it will be a lot better than what I'm going through right now. I'm a good person and I'm honest! I figured by coming on here and just posting what I really need it just couldn't hurt. I hate to beg or ask for help for anything because I am a very independent person. But with everything I'm going through, I just can't do this on my own! I'm even willing to do a loan. The full amount I need is now $19,000. So far someone was nice enough to help me out with $1000 towards the surgery. If anyone else out there is willing to even help me out with a loan so I can get this surgery done I would really be grateful for that as well! If someone out there can please help me I would really appreciate it! Every little bit helps! Thank you

I'm a young female and I'm desperate in getting plastic surgery! I'm not looking to get anything like breast implants... I'm looking to get reconstructive surgery for my face. For a long time I've always wanted to get this done but never could afford it! It's not like I'm trying to look perfect or anything... this is something that I truly need! With this problem that I have I have extremely low self-esteem and still suffer from depression because of my looks.... even contemplated suicide! There are times I feel like I can't even leave the house because of how I look. Even strangers look at me and stare and make rude comments sometimes... it really hurts... especially when they don't even know me! I want to be able to work and have a normal life like everyone else, but right now it's really hard for me to do. It's easy for people to say "you should love yourself the way you are" but if you have people always reminding you how ugly you are, it's not that easy to be confident and ignore what people say. I know if I have this surgery done it will really help my confidence in a big way! I know my life will never be perfect but I know that it will be a lot better than what I'm going through right now. I'm a good person and I'm honest! I figured by coming on here and just posting what I really need it just couldn't hurt. I hate to beg or ask for help for anything because I am a very independent person. But with everything I'm going through, I just can't do this on my own! I'm even willing to do a loan. The full amount I need is now $19,000. So far someone was nice enough to help me out with $1000 towards the surgery. If anyone else out there is willing to even help me out with a loan so I can get this surgery done I would really be grateful for that as well! If someone out there can please help me I would really appreciate it! Every little bit helps! Thank you

I'm a young female and I'm desperate in getting plastic surgery! I'm not looking to get anything like breast implants... I'm looking to get reconstructive surgery for my face. For a long time I've always wanted to get this done but never could afford it! It's not like I'm trying to look perfect or anything... this is something that I truly need! With this problem that I have I have extremely low self-esteem and still suffer from depression because of my looks.... even contemplated suicide! There are times I feel like I can't even leave the house because of how I look. Even strangers look at me and stare and make rude comments sometimes... it really hurts... especially when they don't even know me! I want to be able to work and have a normal life like everyone else, but right now it's really hard for me to do. It's easy for people to say "you should love yourself the way you are" but if you have people always reminding you how ugly you are, it's not that easy to be confident and ignore what people say. I know if I have this surgery done it will really help my confidence in a big way! I know my life will never be perfect but I know that it will be a lot better than what I'm going through right now. I'm a good person and I'm honest! I figured by coming on here and just posting what I really need it just couldn't hurt. I hate to beg or ask for help for anything because I am a very independent person. But with everything I'm going through, I just can't do this on my own! I'm even willing to do a loan. The full amount I need is now $19,000. So far someone was nice enough to help me out with $1000 towards the surgery. If anyone else out there is willing to even help me out with a loan so I can get this surgery done I would really be grateful for that as well! If someone out there can please help me I would really appreciate it! Every little bit helps! Thank you

I'm a young female and I'm desperate in getting plastic surgery! I'm not looking to get anything like breast implants... I'm looking to get reconstructive surgery for my face. For a long time I've always wanted to get this done but never could afford it! It's not like I'm trying to look perfect or anything... this is something that I truly need! With this problem that I have I have extremely low self-esteem and still suffer from depression because of my looks.... even contemplated suicide! There are times I feel like I can't even leave the house because of how I look. Even strangers look at me and stare and make rude comments sometimes... it really hurts... especially when they don't even know me! I want to be able to work and have a normal life like everyone else, but right now it's really hard for me to do. It's easy for people to say "you should love yourself the way you are" but if you have people always reminding you how ugly you are, it's not that easy to be confident and ignore what people say. I know if I have this surgery done it will really help my confidence in a big way! I know my life will never be perfect but I know that it will be a lot better than what I'm going through right now. I'm a good person and I'm honest! I figured by coming on here and just posting what I really need it just couldn't hurt. I hate to beg or ask for help for anything because I am a very independent person. But with everything I'm going through, I just can't do this on my own! I'm even willing to do a loan. The full amount I need is now $19,000. So far someone was nice enough to help me out with $1000 towards the surgery. If anyone else out there is willing to even help me out with a loan so I can get this surgery done I would really be grateful for that as well! If someone out there can please help me I would really appreciate it! Every little bit helps! Thank you

I have been searching for help, I did something I thought was a good deed and it turned out I was taken for granted and I fell into debt. I sent money I thought was to a charity in singapore for a childrens home. I couldn't believe that people could be so cruel. Now I am here with my electricity about to be turned off and heat. I am looking for help only to repay back. I have been paying out to many payments when I know I can do this with one payment a month. Is their any kind of help I can get. I have tried everything. I am married and we raise our granddaughter. I am a volunteer for my church and I do the best I can. I would give my last dime to someone if I knew they needed it more than me. Now it hurts me to say, I am the one that needs the help. I believe in myh heart no one likes to beg, but their are times when we have to put certain feelings aside to save my family.

$$ 2000 -I am starting nursing school THIS may. I have credit cards charged because I needed to buy books, supplies, a laptop, and other items for school! It is STRESSING me out because I want to focus on school and not worry about paying bills!!! I've been crying about it like everyday. I just wanna be BROKE. ALL I NEED IS $$$$ 2000. THATS IT. please help. being stressful is painful and hurts! Im sick of crying and I don't think 2000 is too much to ask for!!! MUCH LOVE <3333 THANKSSSS!

I'm a young female and I'm desperate in getting plastic surgery! I'm not looking to get anything like breast implants... I'm looking to get reconstructive surgery for my face. For a long time I've always wanted to get this done but never could afford it! It's not like I'm trying to look perfect or anything... this is something that I truly need! With this problem that I have I have extremely low self-esteem and still suffer from depression because of my looks.... even contemplated suicide! There are times I feel like I can't even leave the house because of how I look. Even strangers look at me and stare and make rude comments sometimes... it really hurts... especially when they don't even know me! I want to be able to work and have a normal life like everyone else, but right now it's really hard for me to do. It's easy for people to say "you should love yourself the way you are" but if you have people always reminding you how ugly you are, it's not that easy to be confident and ignore what people say. I know if I have this surgery done it will really help my confidence in a big way! I know my life will never be perfect but I know that it will be a lot better than what I'm going through right now. I'm a good person and I'm honest! I figured by coming on here and just posting what I really need it just couldn't hurt. I hate to beg or ask for help for anything because I am a very independent person. But with everything I'm going through, I just can't do this on my own! I'm even willing to do a loan. The full amount I need is now $19,000. So far someone was nice enough to help me out with $1000 towards the surgery. If anyone else out there is willing to even help me out with a loan so I can get this surgery done I would really be grateful for that as well! If someone out there can please help me I would really appreciate it! Every little bit helps! Thank you

I'm a young female and I'm desperate in getting plastic surgery! I'm not looking to get anything like breast implants... I'm looking to get reconstructive surgery for my face. For a long time I've always wanted to get this done but never could afford it! It's not like I'm trying to look perfect or anything... this is something that I truly need! With this problem that I have I have extremely low self-esteem and still suffer from depression because of my looks.... even contemplated suicide! There are times I feel like I can't even leave the house because of how I look. Even strangers look at me and stare and make rude comments sometimes... it really hurts... especially when they don't even know me! I want to be able to work and have a normal life like everyone else, but right now it's really hard for me to do. It's easy for people to say "you should love yourself the way you are" but if you have people always reminding you how ugly you are, it's not that easy to be confident and ignore what people say. I know if I have this surgery done it will really help my confidence in a big way! I know my life will never be perfect but I know that it will be a lot better than what I'm going through right now. I'm a good person and I'm honest! I figured by coming on here and just posting what I really need it just couldn't hurt. I hate to beg or ask for help for anything because I am a very independent person. But with everything I'm going through, I just can't do this on my own! I'm even willing to do a loan. The full amount I need is now $19,000. So far someone was nice enough to help me out with $1000 towards the surgery. If anyone else out there is willing to even help me out with a loan so I can get this surgery done I would really be grateful for that as well! If someone out there can please help me I would really appreciate it! Every little bit helps! Thank you

I'm a young female and I'm desperate in getting plastic surgery! I'm not looking to get anything like breast implants... I'm looking to get reconstructive surgery for my face. For a long time I've always wanted to get this done but never could afford it! It's not like I'm trying to look perfect or anything... this is something that I truly need! With this problem that I have I have extremely low self-esteem and still suffer from depression because of my looks.... even contemplated suicide! There are times I feel like I can't even leave the house because of how I look. Even strangers look at me and stare and make rude comments sometimes... it really hurts... especially when they don't even know me! I want to be able to work and have a normal life like everyone else, but right now it's really hard for me to do. It's easy for people to say "you should love yourself the way you are" but if you have people always reminding you how ugly you are, it's not that easy to be confident and ignore what people say. I know if I have this surgery done it will really help my confidence in a big way! I know my life will never be perfect but I know that it will be a lot better than what I'm going through right now. I'm a good person and I'm honest! I figured by coming on here and just posting what I really need it just couldn't hurt. I hate to beg or ask for help for anything because I am a very independent person. But with everything I'm going through, I just can't do this on my own! I'm even willing to do a loan. The full amount I need is now $19,000. So far someone was nice enough to help me out with $1000 towards the surgery. If anyone else out there is willing to even help me out with a loan so I can get this surgery done I would really be grateful for that as well! If someone out there can please help me I would really appreciate it! Every little bit helps! Thank you

I'm a young female and I'm desperate in getting plastic surgery! I'm not looking to get anything like breast implants... I'm looking to get reconstructive surgery for my face. For a long time I've always wanted to get this done but never could afford it! It's not like I'm trying to look perfect or anything... this is something that I truly need! With this problem that I have I have extremely low self-esteem and still suffer from depression because of my looks.... even contemplated suicide! There are times I feel like I can't even leave the house because of how I look. Even strangers look at me and stare and make rude comments sometimes... it really hurts... especially when they don't even know me! I want to be able to work and have a normal life like everyone else, but right now it's really hard for me to do. It's easy for people to say "you should love yourself the way you are" but if you have people always reminding you how ugly you are, it's not that easy to be confident and ignore what people say. I know if I have this surgery done it will really help my confidence in a big way! I know my life will never be perfect but I know that it will be a lot better than what I'm going through right now. I'm a good person and I'm honest! I figured by coming on here and just posting what I really need it just couldn't hurt. I hate to beg or ask for help for anything because I am a very independent person. But with everything I'm going through, I just can't do this on my own! I'm even willing to do a loan. The full amount I need is now $19,000. So far someone was nice enough to help me out with $1000 towards the surgery. If anyone else out there is willing to even help me out with a loan so I can get this surgery done I would really be grateful for that as well! If someone out there can please help me I would really appreciate it! Every little bit helps! Thank you

hello:)... i feel very awkward attempting to explain just how serious and overwhelming my families situation is right now...i have always been there and helped in anyway that i was able to with family,friends, and strangers. i spent most of my life making sure that the ones around me were atleast happy, hopefully healthy, and especially loved.. Now i have a baby boy of my own, i am a single mother, and i want to provide MY son with the best possible opportunities in his life... i want to experience life with him...to see his accomplishments,to laugh with him,and to always let him know he is safe..... however- like many individuals, i am having many setbacks. unfortunately some of these issues are pretty serious:( i have severe dental problems:i have since i was a child, and never had the $ to take care of it. it has reached a point that it is life threatening if i do not somehow find a "miracle"...if my lack of money ends up shortening my sons life experiences with me, i will never forgive myself. i have to have extensive surgeries...mainly what i am praying for assistance for at the moment is any type of kind heartedness and understanding....i have to find a way to afford dental implantation and reconstruction of my entire mouth:(:(...it is soo embarrassing....but above that....extremely painful every day...it hinders my time with my son, aswell as finding a good job to support him....i cant smile anymore....not because i dont want to,but because it hurts:(. if u decide to read this lengthly post, and you have it in your means to help us in anyway, then u are an amazing and deeply appreciated individual...even if you are unable to help us at this time....i appreciate the time you took from yourself to read my words. *Bless YOU*

This hurts to ask nothing seems to be going right
63 yrs old wife left. trying to start my own business can't live on disability. need someone to take a chance and help. no help from the sate seems like they just make it harder. when you try for extra help from ssa they want you to move out of your home and want you to live on less then what you are getting for ssdi. trying to get a head but just does not seem to work fighting with the VA for PTSD but that takes forever. if i can get help i will pay it forward if someone feels inclined to help i will pass it on the world would be better if people worked together. thanks will appreciate any help i can receive