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I'm a single mother aged 35. I've lived in California for almost 14 years ( it will be 15 this year on memorial day weekend.)
I’m going to be a little blunt, because I'm tired and I want to give up so bad, but I can't. I'm better than that and my kids are my motivator. I wake up everyday and remind myself of 2 things :1) Faith is what you have when you all your beliefs are blown to hell. 2) What doesn't kill you makes you stronger -Nietzsche

I am a 35 year old educated, ambitious, head strong woman. I have owned my own business with my soon to be ex. I know what hard work and determination are. I went to private school and I am educated. I value my community and have always given back and will continue to do so. I also know that I have the drive and determination to get myself back on track. I'm not ASKING for a handout, I'm asking for help up! I also know what loss is. I don't have the business, a house or EVEN the car anymore. We lost everything. He bounced back , I didn’t. All I have is HOPE, that someone or some program can help me carve a path back to self sufficiency.
It's gone continually downhill.I am amazed at the allotment of programs for both housing and employment for all different walks of life. However, what about those that are just struggling. No hang ups, no record, just struggling and are LOW INCOME. I'm not writing this to make you feel sorry, I'm writing this because I have exhausted possibilities that I have researched both on my own or been given the information to do the work with.
There are people who struggle everyday through no fault of their own. They don't want a hand out, but help up would be a relief. Society doesn't need band-aids they need solutions.
Not every county, city or state program fits everyone's needs.
First of all Section 8 has been closed since BEFORE I left my marriage so that idea could never work. The list has been closed for years. Because I have limited time with my children, I do not qualify for CALWORKS. I have tried getting assistance in every way possible. I had very little unemployment left since I have been struggling to find work. I was delayed for about 3 months because they needed verification and I had to appeal and request a hearing. I have won my appeal but will only receive $91/week and for a short period of time.
I took a project management class through WIA in 2011, and I was able to get CTB benefits. I NEED HELP. I have hit the absolute worst point in my life and still refuse to give up. I have been looking for work and am now HOMELESS.I am in week 3 of staying in an extended stay hotel (paid for by my mother back east, who makes maybe $26,000/yr in PA) I recently sold my car because I needed to pay bills and rent. I have maybe $75 to my name.
The fact that they say there are services for low income/ homeless is frustrating. I say this because there is no category for me. I'm not a drug addict or in recovery. I don't have a mental illness. I wasn't in prison, I don’t' even have a RECORD. I can proudly say I've never been arrested or even in the back of a cop car. I'm not a victim of domestic violence and I do not beat my kids. Why aren't there programs in place for single parents struggling to make it? Everyday people that are responsible and respectable. I understand the need to assist those that may not have the capacity to take care of themselves. However, I have a huge problem with the fact that Santa Clara County & all programs (private, govt or state funded) will rehabilitate and reintroduced felons into the community, but if you're poor, homeless, no record, are looking for work, have high intelligence; sorry, you can't get help. This sounds extremely cynical and jaded, but I am a little after going through all I have.
I have been told constantly “I wish I could do something but we don't have any programs to help you.” My favorite reply is: "Yeah and you have done everything. I'm surprised you even knew about all the programs you did"
I have talked to employment counselors, program coordinators, program advocates and case managers, volunteers, just about anyone. The bankruptcy is hindering my chances of securing housing, even if I had employment.

The icing on the cake has to be with food stamps and General Assistance. I qualified for Cal-Fresh. However, at the time I had a car worth $2200. So I wasn't able to get General Assistance. Fast Forward a year later, I HAD to sell my car to pay bills. Now this month when I went for General Assistance, I qualify.

It's a never ending cycle, a constant push down. I can take public transportation to work, but to get around and see my boys and being able to transport them would be extremely difficult, not to mention financially stressing. I have scoured employment books, read articles, searched the library, spent hours online trying to find a job, program, a company, anybody who could be a resource whether for low income assistance or employment.
I can probably tell you about a plethora of services this county (Santa Clara) offers for both income assistance and job services.I am registered with CALJOBS; I know all the career sites and have my resume there. I get interviews, however I am starting to think the bankruptcy from loss of business is holding me back when employers do background check.
I also could teach the business writing class or the resume writing classes they offer at Work2Future, I practically did when I took them. I could do the same at Sacred Heart. I've been to InnVision and EHC. I’ve talked to Sunnyvale Community Services. Boy he was a treat he sounded older then my 80 yr old grandma. When I said I need housing and employment help, he gruffly told me to check the newspaper and hung up. I've called St Josephs in Gilroy. I've talked to a program coordinator at West Valley Community Services. I called the Sobrato Organization hoping they had ties to something and one the employees just by grace of god happened to pick up and take my call. I was able to talk to someone at HIF (they couldn't help)
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I am responsible, respectable and just want to work, have a place to live, and be able to have my children 50/50. I have no police record. I am not in recovery, nor have I ever had to be in a program
I want to work and am attaching a compilation of ALL my work skills. I would not send this out otherwise, I would tailor it specifically to the job I am applying for.

I used to volunteer as much as I could I like being active in my community and helping others. I'm still about that I believe in PAY IT FORWARD. I believe the good you do comes back to you tenfold and that no matter what is going wrong in your life, someone else is struggling just as much if not more; so be thankful for what you have.
I attend church and was a hospitality volunteer for that as well.
I just need help getting on my feet. I have no family, other than my children here in CA.
I do not want to move back east and be far away from them. I want to work, I want to live again. I want to smile and mean it.

I hate what my life has become and know that I am SO MUCH BETTER THEN THIS.
Please help me : money is fine, but it's only a temporary fix, please help me find a program that can assist me in getting on my feet, direct me to employment, and most of all afford me the opportunity to have my children much more consistently so I can be a mom again.
Thank you
Courtney DiMiceli

Hi all this is most embarassing but i really need some help from someone who can afford to help me . my job of 23 years closed and unemployment has run out and i have gotten my wife and i evicted and we are now on an aquaintances couch. we sold our car to pay back rent but got evicted anyway my wife works hard and does not deserve to sleep on anyones couch i just fell behind, and have not found another job yet. it is really depressing and frustrating to be going through tis after all these years of working.if anyone out there could spare a few dollars it would greatly be appreciated! i am at the end of my rope paypal acct is whitediamond0314@yahoo.com THANK YOU!!

Hey everyone. I've been dealing with panic disorder and agoraphobia for about 10 years. I'm currently 28 years old and am almost finished with a bachelor's of science degree. It has taken me almost ten years to complete, but I refuse to give up. I live with my parents still and sell things on ebay, try to do daily jobs, and take classes either on campus or online. I do not have medical insurance and I really need to have my eyes checked, a doctor's check-up, a dental cleaning, and money for Sallie Mae bills. Food, gas, and hygiene money aside. I've pretty much run out of things to sell and my parents don't have enough money of their own to support me. I have applied for HIP but am still on the waiting list after two years. I think it's pertinent to mention that I apply for jobs daily online. I do not sit around and wait for hand-outs. A lot of the jobs I have managed to obtain, I lost due to panic attacks. If I need to "step out" for a few minutes to collect myself, the employer doesn't understand. It's very frustrating because I try repeatedly with the same results. I would love to be able to see a psychiatrist, but again, I cannot afford it. I belong to online self-help communities and try to give myself the best therapy I know how. I have potential -- I know I can offer a lot to people if I can just get out there. If anyone could help me out with any amount, I'd be unbelievably grateful. Not really sure where to go from here.

Single Mom with one child, I do have a job but my child gets really depressed when I take extra hours and do not see them enough. I cannot get ahead and am now in the horrible payday loan cycle just to put food on the table. I would like to get out of that cycle so I can start paying off my real debt but that is difficult at this time. I have gone to social services but they wont help me with emergency money because I make just over the low income line. This is extremely frustrating but I refuse to quit my job to go on welfare to become low income. Whatever you can help me with, I am thankful for and it would help me sleep at night. Thank you :)

Single Mom with one child, I do have a job but my child gets really depressed when I take extra hours and do not see them enough. I cannot get ahead and am now in the horrible payday loan cycle just to put food on the table. I would like to get out of that cycle so I can start paying off my real debt but that is difficult at this time. I have gone to social services but they wont help me with emergency money because I make just over the low income line. This is extremely frustrating but I refuse to quit my job to go on welfare to become low income. Whatever you can help me with, I am thankful for and it would help me sleep at night. Thank you :)

Single Mom with one child, I do have a job but my child gets really depressed when I take extra hours and do not see them enough. I cannot get ahead and am now in the horrible payday loan cycle just to put food on the table. I would like to get out of that cycle so I can start paying off my real debt but that is difficult at this time. I have gone to social services but they wont help me with emergency money because I make just over the low income line. This is extremely frustrating but I refuse to quit my job to go on welfare to become low income. Whatever you can help me with, I am thankful for and it would help me sleep at night. Thank you :)

Single Mom with one child, I do have a job but my child gets really depressed when I take extra hours and do not see them enough. I cannot get ahead and am now in the horrible payday loan cycle just to put food on the table. I would like to get out of that cycle so I can start paying off my real debt but that is difficult at this time. I have gone to social services but they wont help me with emergency money because I make just over the low income line. This is extremely frustrating but I refuse to quit my job to go on welfare to become low income. Whatever you can help me with, I am thankful for and it would help me sleep at night. Thank you :)

Single Mom with one child, I do have a job but my child gets really depressed when I take extra hours and do not see them enough. I cannot get ahead and am now in the horrible payday loan cycle just to put food on the table. I would like to get out of that cycle so I can start paying off my real debt but that is difficult at this time. I have gone to social services but they wont help me with emergency money because I make just over the low income line. This is extremely frustrating but I refuse to quit my job to go on welfare to become low income. Whatever you can help me with, I am thankful for and it would help me sleep at night. Thank you :)

Single Mom with one child, I do have a job but my child gets really depressed when I take extra hours and do not see them enough. I cannot get ahead and am now in the horrible payday loan cycle just to put food on the table. I would like to get out of that cycle so I can start paying off my real debt but that is difficult at this time. I have gone to social services but they wont help me with emergency money because I make just over the low income line. This is extremely frustrating but I refuse to quit my job to go on welfare to become low income. Whatever you can help me with, I am thankful for and it would help me sleep at night. Thank you :)

Single Mom with one child, I do have a job but my child gets really depressed when I take extra hours and do not see them enough. I cannot get ahead and am now in the horrible payday loan cycle just to put food on the table. I would like to get out of that cycle so I can start paying off my real debt but that is difficult at this time. I have gone to social services but they wont help me with emergency money because I make just over the low income line. This is extremely frustrating but I refuse to quit my job to go on welfare to become low income. Whatever you can help me with, I am thankful for and it would help me sleep at night. Thank you :)

Single Mom with one child, I do have a job but my child gets really depressed when I take extra hours and do not see them enough. I cannot get ahead and am now in the horrible payday loan cycle just to put food on the table. I would like to get out of that cycle so I can start paying off my real debt but that is difficult at this time. I have gone to social services but they wont help me with emergency money because I make just over the low income line. This is extremely frustrating but I refuse to quit my job to go on welfare to become low income. Whatever you can help me with, I am thankful for and it would help me sleep at night. Thank you :)

Single Mom with one child, I do have a job but my child gets really depressed when I take extra hours and do not see them enough. I cannot get ahead and am now in the horrible payday loan cycle just to put food on the table. I would like to get out of that cycle so I can start paying off my real debt but that is difficult at this time. I have gone to social services but they wont help me with emergency money because I make just over the low income line. This is extremely frustrating but I refuse to quit my job to go on welfare to become low income. Whatever you can help me with, I am thankful for and it would help me sleep at night. Thank you :)

Single Mom with one child, I do have a job but my child gets really depressed when I take extra hours and do not see them enough. I cannot get ahead and am now in the horrible payday loan cycle just to put food on the table. I would like to get out of that cycle so I can start paying off my real debt but that is difficult at this time. I have gone to social services but they wont help me with emergency money because I make just over the low income line. This is extremely frustrating but I refuse to quit my job to go on welfare to become low income. Whatever you can help me with, I am thankful for and it would help me sleep at night. Thank you :)

I am currently deployed over seas and will be for the next year. While I am deployed in an area that I can keep in touch with my family, my current laptop computer just isn't capable of skyping with my family without having a lot of issues and it is really frustrating. I'm not looking for someone to drop enough for me to buy a complete one but if anyone can help supplement me purchasing my own so that I can talk to the wife and kids without my computer throwing a fit, of course I would be very grateful.

My Current Laptop is a Dell Inspiron E1505 with 1GB of Ram, 64 GB Hard Drive, an old Core Duo processor, and integrated video.. It runs but if I have to switch with skyping and viewing what my wife/kids are looking at online, the thing freaks out.

Hello,
After a frustrating period of unemployment, I have finally gotten a short-term temp job. It doesn't pay much, but is something for which I am grateful. I need help paying for transportation expenses to get to this job. Gas costs $57 a week. Parking costs $50 a week. Please help if you can so that I can make the most of this opportunity. Any amount will help and be appreciated. Thank you.

Hello,
After a frustrating period of unemployment, I have finally gotten a short-term temp job. It doesn't pay much, but is something for which I am grateful. I need help paying for transportation expenses to get to this job. Gas costs $57 a week. Parking costs $50 a week. Please help if you can so that I can make the most of this opportunity. Any amount will help and be appreciated. Thank you.

Hi, it's just my husband and I and we've been living paycheck to paycheck which becomes increasingly frustrating. I have a part time job, not having much success finding anything full time. My husband works for a carpet installer and hasn't had much work over the holidays. Our mortgage is coming up and even though we are not even a month behind yet, the mortgage company already sent us a letter with an auction notice if we don't pay our december mortgage by january 9. So if anyone can help us, with any amount no matter how small, we would greatly appreciate it because it would be helping us out a lot. We look forward to being able to pay it forward. Thank you for listening and happy new year.

I am a retired 67-year-old man living on a very small pension. In fact, it does not cover my basic needs, so I have to see how I can get some additional money to make ends meet and believe me it is not easy and quit frustrating. What helps me a little is that I am a half-full glass of water person. And I am always trying out something new, like this for example. It keeps me busy and avoids becoming depressed.
I would really appreciate your help and all donations big or small are very welcome.
I can also offer something in return like a Portrait of Michael Jackson printed on artistic paint canvas, aquarelle paper or as a digital file. It is a picture of Michael Jackson, turned into artistic paintings and printed in different types of Aquarelle, Pencil, Felt marker, chalk, pastels, watercolor, portraitist or oil painting on paint canvas, aquarelle paper or as a digital file with characteristics of famous artists like Van Gogh, Monet, and Cezanne among others,. It can also be done from your pictures or from photos of any person, portrait, object or landscape Shipping is unframed via registered airmail in a Bubble envelope or a cardboard or plastic tube for protection. Size up to 12” x 16”. You can look it up on Ebay it is Item number:290647178321. I can also help with computer problems, repair and unlock cell phones like Iphones and Blackberries, setup and host websites and many other things in this area.
Well thank you for your patience and taking the time to read this and hopefully I await your business and/or donations as well.
My very best regards to you,
Richard

Desperate for help! I'm just trying to make ends meet...my husband and I both lost our jobs in 2010, causing a tidal wave of destruction financially. To cut cost, we moved back to my home town. I have recently been offered a job in another town, which would be a wonderful step to get up back on the road to recovery, but unfortunately, the company does not pay relocation. We need desperately for me to get this job, but if we are not able to move...we are so close but so far and it is so frustrating because all we want to do is be able to work. We are needing approximately $2500-$3000, to help pay for a self move, and assistance with deposits/rent. Any help would be greatly appreciated! Thank you and Blessings!

Where do I start? I have never done anything like this before but I have reached the bottom I believe, My wife and I both have full time jobs and yet the bills outnumber our income, I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia 3 years ago and miss alot of work during the winter months. I injured both my knees at work and Workmens Comp insurance is fighting paying for my right knee to be repaired, I have medical bills from all the surgerys on my knees. Our vehicles both have over 230,000 miles on them and when they break down we have to pay the mechanic and not pay our medical bills. It's very frustrating to say the least. )=
I am praying and hoping beyond hope that someone who has been blessed with extra wealth will find it in their heart to help a working family stay ahead of the bill collectors, Put food on the table for our children and keep our vehicles in safe repair.
My humble thanks and gratitude.
Tony

Where do I start? I have never done anything like this before but I have reached the bottom I believe, My wife and I both have full time jobs and yet the bills outnumber our income, I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia 3 years ago and miss alot of work during the winter months. I injured both my knees at work and Workmens Comp insurance is fighting paying for my right knee to be repaired, I have medical bills from all the surgerys on my knees. Our vehicles both have over 230,000 miles on them and when they break down we have to pay the mechanic and not pay our medical bills. It's very frustrating to say the least. )=
I am praying and hoping beyond hope that someone who has been blessed with extra wealth will find it in their heart to help a working family stay ahead of the bill collectors, Put food on the table for our children and keep our vehicles in safe repair.
My humble thanks and gratitude.
Tony

As others in my situation, it gets soooooooo frustrating when a person works most of their entire life,and still struggle as they grow older. Working since I was eight and to date. I am now 54. My future looks very bleak due to a brain tumor. My 16 yr.-old Daughter will never be able to work (retardation), My younger Son (who is 12), also has some issues. My Wife has multiple health issues including Fibromyalgia and heart problems. 130,000 owed on Home which depreciates daily due to the economy. Just venting I guess but most of you understand. Peace and Love to all in need and may your futures look brighter. I know a site as this maybe worked in the early days on Internet but one never knows. :)

I am a 30 year old nursing student trying to get my Associate of Applied Science in Nursing to become a Registered Nurse. I am making minimum wage working as a nurse aide, and it was difficult to even land this job. I have been on my own since 18, have always had low paying jobs, and simply cannot afford my monthly bills along with school bills, so have to keep dropping out of school every other quarter. I just need some financial help. I am honest and hardworking, and plan on becoming gainfully employed. I have no family to help me, I have no one.

I have no children and bad credit, so I get very limited financial aid. I feel like I will never graduate and it is frustrating because I am here, able, ready and willing to complete the classes, I just can't afford them.

I have medical bills from an unexpected surgery that led to an extended period of non-paid time off from work and that really hurt me financially. I pay all my bills and will never file bankruptcy, but due to my limited income and medical debt I have zero extra money for anything other than basic living expenses. I've been responsible enough to not have any children as I couldn't afford to take care of any, and it is very frustrating seeing single moms getting their entire nursing school paid for along with extra money back. I am honest and hard working and need some honest help getting through my RN degree. I feel ashamed asking for money but I am desperate. I would be grateful for anything and promise to pay it forward many times over once I graduate!

My paypal address is lizg98052@gmail.com

Please...someone...

Hello,

I am writing here to beg for help supporting myself. I never thought I would be in this situation, but I find myself alone and unable to pay my rent.

After 8 years with a physically and emotionally abusive man, a friend helped me find the strength to run. With her support and the help of the wonderful staff at a women's shelter, I have finally started to see myself as an independent person instead of the house pet of a horrible man.

While in this relationship, I was not allowed to work outside the house or interact with people outside of those acquaintances he approved for me. Figuring out how to support myself has been difficult and frightening, and I'm still learning and finding my way. I have a small basement bachelor apartment, and worked briefly as a waitress. Unfortunately I found the stress of being surrounded by so many strangers to be too big of a step and too soon, having so recently left the sheltered life I led for the last 8 years. I lost the waitressing job because of the anxiety and near panic attacks that kept me from performing my duties. I have since found a little work keeping house for a kind, quiet couple, but I make only about $60-$80/wk doing this. I cannot ask them for more, as I know they already do all they can for me. They do not know my story.

I cannot get a loan or line of credit to help pay my rent, because as far as the bank is concerned I have never had a job and I appear unemployable. The various charities that exist to help women in my situation give most of their aid to women with dependent children or parents, which is fair but frustrating.

If you are able, a donation from you could change my life. Eventually I want to go to college, maybe for culinary arts (cooking is the one thing I've gotten very good at!). For now, I just need to pay my rent.

Any help would be the greatest kindness, and would be so greatly appreciated.

Thank you.

hi there,

i've been horribly sick for a week with what my doctor thinks is a bacterial infection. i had to miss several days of work and they fired me even though i have a doctor's note. i'm a college student who needed this job to pay for rent and living expenses this summer. i will be fine once school starts, but now i won't have enough money to pay for rent in a month. it costs $600 which is super cheap for this area, and i'm doing everything in the meantime to try to get a temporary job, but i'm not optimistic since it took me three weeks to get the job i just lost. it's so frustrating to be sick like this. i'm just reaching out here in case anyone wishes to lend a hand- any little bit will help, seriously. thank you so much for reading, i appreciate it.