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Cant count on family
Posted by jasond on 2012-05-21 11:58:13
I work full time and also do side jobs on weekends to make ends meet, my wife has been out of work on disability (she will return full time in the next 3 weeks) due to the birth of our son, which should be the happiest time of our life, and yet I get to go home and see my children upset wondering why there uncle is acting the way he is, I get to see my wife cry over the fact that we have been basically reminded that even though we pay the bill and we fix this home and have made it what it never was for me growing up an actual home, that it is not ours and we should have no say over what happens.
My brother who at one time made hundreds of thousands of dollars a year an selfish heartless drug addict, who even though has never treated me or my family with any respect I have always dropped what I am doing regardless of time or place to go âsave himâ, and by save usually picking his drug addict ass up and making sure he gets home, or dropping what Iâm doing to take him to the hospital cause he is so sick from whatever he has taken this time. Now that brother has decided to move in with us, not ask, not offer to help, but blatantly tell me and my wife, âitâs not your house , I am not asking permission to stay hereâ, and my parents who told me this home was a âWedding giftâ seem to agree. They feel itâs okay for a drug addict to be living among children, that itâs okay that slowly one by one pieces of my wifeâs jewelry are disappearing, or that since he came has literally taken over my infant sons nursery with his disgusting belongings that I found my wife sitting on the floor of the living room trying to feed the baby because heâs asleep on the sofa passed out cold and his belonging are strewn all over the house.
My only options are to buy this home that I and my wife have built a great life in so I can say who stays and goes, or to uproot my children and move as far from these selfish disgusting people as possible.
In order to purchase this home I would need a deposit upwards of 12000 which due to me draining my accounts my sons accounts and my wifeâs to âsaveâ my brother from jail, drug dealers, etc., we have nothing left. Which has led me here, led me to the point where I feel more dependent on asking strangers for help than my own family because they canât even help themselves? I am the little brother (youngest of four) who has always had to be the big brother, I am the one one whose entire family drops there problems in my lap as if to say deal with it. I have been the pillar supporting every single family member I have for the last 28 years, the pillar has finally cracked and canât hold up the weight of the world anymore. I am begging on my hands and knees for help from completer strangers so I can continue to give my children the life I never had, and offer them some stability instead of having to tear them from the home they have come to love, that my wife has come to love, that I love. I want to give my children the world but my family continues to assure that wonât happen under there watch. Please I beg of you with everything I am I need help. Please donât make us just another statistic, I found my calling and made a life for my wife and children, I have put aside pride, because they are all that matters to me. Thank You for taking the time to read this and thank you for any support or help you can provide.
“Proving That Gifting Yields Gaining For People”
Posted by DocVaj on 2012-05-13 15:58:28
If like 1,000s of 1,000,000s of people in USA Territories YOU TOO are living in fear about your finances and what appears to be happening with the money system, I respectfully request that you take this Beggar Request very seriously and act, (not just read), if your heart resonates with my words and my promise.
WHY? Because I am not some crazy Beggar hoping people will send me some of their money. Formerly known as The Prophetess Of Destiny and countless other titles you can pull up on Google, I am a Servant Of The Light bearing gifts in exchange for PROOF that you will open up to RECEIVING BACK FROM THE UNIVERSE in exchange for gifting me with $11-Bucks or more. My labor is to enrich, uplift and enliven Humanity worldwide and Google yields plenty of evidence.
TITLES TO SEARCH:
Doc Vaj
Mystic Vajrayana
The HeartSeer
The Frequency Modulator
The Desire To Reality Confidante
The World's Only CartomancSeer
The ELF (Enlightened Life Facilitator)
Whatever you have asked, hoped, prayed, searched for that has not shown up yet is now within reach!!
CLARION CALL: Whomever you may be, no matter your current conditions or station in life, know that we are now in a time deemed by The Angelic Forces to be the most pivotal year (2k12) in Human history; yes, in Human history!! And because the fact that we are all connected is provable within our experiences, I ask you to allow your heart intelligence to help you discern why my request for your financial support is a win-win-win agenda designed to prove that choosing to gift other people (can) yield perpetually increasing $financial$ returns on investments (ROI) when you are aligned with a lead by example expert at Human Potential Optimization who is 100% committed to consistently exercising her responsibilities without delays and/or excuses.
You see, there is more to you than flesh and blood and more to life than here, and each of us is a unique expression of Divine Intelligence, no matter how we name it, for Human Beings actually are the eyes, ears, hands, feet, heart and voice of Spirit/God, operating in the Earth!! Even though billions of spiritually asleep people do not believe it or (consciously) know this as their personal truth, we all have personal Spiritual Inheritances, and when we purposefully explore, reach for and accept the possibility that this statement is correct, we position ourselves to prove it and thereby, remembering how to optimally exercise our Human birthrights can happen for us this lifetime. Unfortunately, without receiving our inheritances, life on Earth tends to remain a haphazard walk on the wild side.
You are a SOUL-GEM; a luminous magnetic Spiritual Being on a Soul Journey through the Human experience here on Planet Earth and GRATITUDE IS an interactive magnetic force field that gets added unto your personal energy stream. Gratitude is a self chosen (adopted) heartfelt attitude of thanksgiving for WHATEVER WE DO HAVE IN LIFE (at the moment), and it is therefore a higher mind set. And when you connect with your world while living in the energy of gratitude, every single time you give from your heart, you open a spiritual portal through which The Universe itself delivers good unto you, whether you are paying attention to it or not!!
THIS IS WHY: The spiritual Cycle Of Abundance looks like this. (A) Your GRATITUDE for whatsoever you do have underlies feelings of generosity, for when you look at this world system you easily see there are billions of others with far less than you. (B) Your GENEROSITY allows you to be see/feel the pain of other people and/or their need and you become inspired to give. (C) Your GIVING uplifts others, especially strangers who cannot return the favor and this selfless act of giving makes you feel good, raises your vibration and thereby aligns you with higher energies. (D) Your ALIGNING with higher energies attracts similar experiences into your life which also makes you feel good/better. (E) Your RECEIVING, (even if receiving is only a smile, a friendly hello, an offer to help you in some seemingly unimportant way), makes you feel connected to others which makes you feel grateful for the gesture. (F) Your GRATITUDE is then at the top of your mind and when it is, a brand new cycle begins for you again. The magical working of our connectedness in the Universe is what makes life worth living.
The Cycle Of Abundance is: Gratitude, Generosity, Giving, Aligning, Attracting, Receiving and Gratitude. As a 25(+) year seasoned Agent Of Light in service to Spiritually Awakening Humanity, I ask that you link your Light with mine and make a donation to my cause, for making higher truth known and available to the masses worldwide is my task at hand. I am an Elder known as The HeartSeer people are chatting with worldwide. I have a global radio broadcast and walk my talk making knowledge of who and what we are as Divine Beings, known to all in search of answers and ways through the challenges of life.
Today is Mothers Day, May 13, 2k12, and if you do not choose to gift me below, feel free to check out my Light Portal (website) so you can gain all the details your mind may require to stop shouting NO in your head. My site was created in a FireFox Browser and it is picture perfect in that browser only. So please, please, only use FireFox Browser because all other browsers yield ugliness. Use FULL SCREEN MODE because you can know the whole site is loaded when you see HEARTS around the (3) columns.
When you get there you will find (3) columns; the two outside columns are the same no matter what you click on and the middle column is where whatever you click on (pages and posts) will appear. See Vital Page in top left column (or) Blog Archives in top right column. Check out (Gifting To The HeartSeer) in either column; they are identical and provide all details: A video, two radio show archives, all details and a way to gift me. Then you can explore the rest of site, or do that first if you prefer.
My primary internet domains:
Http://DocVajsLight.BlogSpot.Com/
(HeartSeer Cosmic Intelligence University)
Http://HCIU-Global-Radio.Biz
Thank you for taking time to read this and please share because blessings and breakthroughs are guaranteed to all who dare to believe that everyone is not a criminal or a hustler out to get them. Now it can be your turn to begin wiping away whatsoever keeps you up at night biting your nails off and/or tearing your hair out, so if you have but a mustard seed worth of faith that there is A GOD, take several deep breaths and visit my light portal. Don't delay!!
Doc Vaj
I am asking for new carseats
Posted by catsy101 on 2012-05-01 20:58:19
Help with bills and college
Posted by blessed on 2012-04-10 15:58:00
Thank you for reading this and thanks in advance for any gifts or prayers!
Have a blessed day!!
Please read this and help me...PLEASE
Posted by jakem11 on 2012-02-26 11:58:38
Graves Disease and Thyroid Cancer
Posted by kayhere on 2012-02-23 09:58:01
lost my wife to car accident
Posted by needhelp025 on 2012-01-21 12:58:04
uhusual requests
Posted by Jesucristo on 2011-12-24 07:58:55
ANO NUEVOâ¦â¦.NEW YEAR!!!!
THROUGH THIS SEASON, MANY PEOPLE WISH FOR PRESENTS,
FOR NEW THINGS, EXCITING TRIPS, PEOPLEâS COMPANY,
AND SO ON AND SO ON,
BUT MEâ¦â¦â¦.I WISH FORâ¦â¦â¦â¦â¦â¦â¦.
FOR RELIEF, YES , RELIEF TO MY PAIN, PAIN DAY AND NIGHT. AT NIGHT YOU FALL ASLEEP, ME??? I AM AWAKEN IN PAIN, AMONG MANY OTHER SYMPTOMS MY BACK IS SEVERELY CROOKED THERE IS NO BALANCE IN MY BODY, SO I FIND NO COMFORTABLE POSITION TO FALL ASLEEP. MY NEUROFIBROMAS OR SMALL TUMORS ALL OVER MY BODY, HEAD, FACE, HANDS, FEET, ETC HURT AND DESESPERATEDLY ITCH SPECIALLY AT NIGHT.
I HAVE SCOLIOSIS AND NEUROFIBROMATOSIS FROM BIRTH.
PLEASE SEND ME ANY AMOUNT OF MONEY YOU CAN, I NEED MEDICINES TO CALM MY PAIN, THE ITCHING IN MY BODY, DOCTORSâ CARE AND SO SO MANY OTHER THINGS.
YOU CAN WRITE ME AT MY E-MAIL IF SO YOU WISH. GOD, PLEASE TALK TO THIS PERSON.
My e-mail: morrita123@yahoo.com
medical bills help
Posted by Jesucristo on 2011-12-24 07:58:55
ANO NUEVOâ¦â¦.NEW YEAR!!!!
THROUGH THIS SEASON, MANY PEOPLE WISH FOR PRESENTS,
FOR NEW THINGS, EXCITING TRIPS, PEOPLEâS COMPANY,
AND SO ON AND SO ON,
BUT MEâ¦â¦â¦.I WISH FORâ¦â¦â¦â¦â¦â¦â¦.
FOR RELIEF, YES , RELIEF TO MY PAIN, PAIN DAY AND NIGHT. AT NIGHT YOU FALL ASLEEP, ME??? I AM AWAKEN IN PAIN, AMONG MANY OTHER SYMPTOMS MY BACK IS SEVERELY CROOKED THERE IS NO BALANCE IN MY BODY, SO I FIND NO COMFORTABLE POSITION TO FALL ASLEEP. MY NEUROFIBROMAS OR SMALL TUMORS ALL OVER MY BODY, HEAD, FACE, HANDS, FEET, ETC HURT AND DESESPERATEDLY ITCH SPECIALLY AT NIGHT.
I HAVE SCOLIOSIS AND NEUROFIBROMATOSIS FROM BIRTH.
PLEASE SEND ME ANY AMOUNT OF MONEY YOU CAN, I NEED MEDICINES TO CALM MY PAIN, THE ITCHING IN MY BODY, DOCTORSâ CARE AND SO SO MANY OTHER THINGS.
YOU CAN WRITE ME AT MY E-MAIL IF SO YOU WISH. GOD, PLEASE TALK TO THIS PERSON.
My e-mail: morrita123@yahoo.com
medical bills
Posted by Jesucristo on 2011-12-24 07:58:53
ANO NUEVOâ¦â¦.NEW YEAR!!!!
THROUGH THIS SEASON, MANY PEOPLE WISH FOR PRESENTS,
FOR NEW THINGS, EXCITING TRIPS, PEOPLEâS COMPANY,
AND SO ON AND SO ON,
BUT MEâ¦â¦â¦.I WISH FORâ¦â¦â¦â¦â¦â¦â¦.
FOR RELIEF, YES , RELIEF TO MY PAIN, PAIN DAY AND NIGHT. AT NIGHT YOU FALL ASLEEP, ME??? I AM AWAKEN IN PAIN, AMONG MANY OTHER SYMPTOMS MY BACK IS SEVERELY CROOKED THERE IS NO BALANCE IN MY BODY, SO I FIND NO COMFORTABLE POSITION TO FALL ASLEEP. MY NEUROFIBROMAS OR SMALL TUMORS ALL OVER MY BODY, HEAD, FACE, HANDS, FEET, ETC HURT AND DESESPERATEDLY ITCH SPECIALLY AT NIGHT.
I HAVE SCOLIOSIS AND NEUROFIBROMATOSIS FROM BIRTH.
PLEASE SEND ME ANY AMOUNT OF MONEY YOU CAN, I NEED MEDICINES TO CALM MY PAIN, THE ITCHING IN MY BODY, DOCTORSâ CARE AND SO SO MANY OTHER THINGS.
YOU CAN WRITE ME AT MY E-MAIL IF SO YOU WISH. GOD, PLEASE TALK TO THIS PERSON.
My e-mail: morrita123@yahoo.com
general
Posted by Jesucristo on 2011-12-24 07:58:51
ANO NUEVOâ¦â¦.NEW YEAR!!!!
THROUGH THIS SEASON, MANY PEOPLE WISH FOR PRESENTS,
FOR NEW THINGS, EXCITING TRIPS, PEOPLEâS COMPANY,
AND SO ON AND SO ON,
BUT MEâ¦â¦â¦.I WISH FORâ¦â¦â¦â¦â¦â¦â¦.
FOR RELIEF, YES , RELIEF TO MY PAIN, PAIN DAY AND NIGHT. AT NIGHT YOU FALL ASLEEP, ME??? I AM AWAKEN IN PAIN, AMONG MANY OTHER SYMPTOMS MY BACK IS SEVERELY CROOKED THERE IS NO BALANCE IN MY BODY, SO I FIND NO COMFORTABLE POSITION TO FALL ASLEEP. MY NEUROFIBROMAS OR SMALL TUMORS ALL OVER MY BODY, HEAD, FACE, HANDS, FEET, ETC HURT AND DESESPERATEDLY ITCH SPECIALLY AT NIGHT.
I HAVE SCOLIOSIS AND NEUROFIBROMATOSIS FROM BIRTH.
PLEASE SEND ME ANY AMOUNT OF MONEY YOU CAN, I NEED MEDICINES TO CALM MY PAIN, THE ITCHING IN MY BODY, DOCTORSâ CARE AND SO SO MANY OTHER THINGS.
YOU CAN WRITE ME AT MY E-MAIL IF SO YOU WISH. GOD, PLEASE TALK TO THIS PERSON.
My e-mail: morrita123@yahoo.com
The Grasshopper and the Ant
Posted by HelpJoeUp58 on 2011-09-11 17:58:18
and Pete B.
Since my previous posts have yielded only four donations over the last five months I thought I would try this approach. My financial problems are quite real. If you find my fable entertaining please send a small donation.
- Fortuna vitrea est, tum cum splendet frangitur -
The Grasshopper and the Ant
A Classic retold by Joseph the Beggar King
Part One
Once upon a time, not so very long ago, there were two friends, the Grasshopper and the Ant. Why these two became friends is a bit of a mystery. The Grasshopper was a dreamer and a drifter. The Ant was a believer and an achiever.
In school the Grasshopper would look out the window without thought and only learned the subjects he found interesting. Sometimes he would fall asleep in Math class, other times when a angry teacher would jump him with a pop question he would give the correct answer in way that would confound them.
The Ant was a teachers dream, he soaked up every subject the system taught him, gave the correct answers in the correct way and got straight A s. He would delight his Math teacher by doing compound interest in his head. The Ant believed that what they taught him would help him succeed and was very completive. After graduating High School the Ant got an Academic Scholarship and the Grasshopper got a Pell Grant.
Within four years the Ant got two BS degrees in Business Management and Engineering. The Grasshopper dropped out after the first year. He went to live with the Rainbow Tribe for a few years. On the way to the bus station he found an old fiddle in a trash pile along the road and when he got station he was able to panhandle his bus fare. That was the Grasshoppers first beg.
The Ant took the College like a fish to water. During open Rush some Greeks invite him to be a brother in their Fraternity. He earned his dues by being the Frat Houses Accountant and made beer money by writing term papers. One day while visiting the Tri Deltas he watches the girls play volleyball and is amazed that even though they are playing a vigorous game not one of them breaks a sweat. It is there he meets the girl of his dreams, Polly Fishbane.
While the Grasshopper was living with the Rainbow Tribe he never meets the girl of his dreams, but it does not really matter too much because they believe in Free Love. So free, in fact, that after what you might call the Honeymoon he found himself getting a little bored with it. From the Rainbow Tribe he learns to live off the fat of country and from his new friend, Buffalo with Runs, he learns to live off the land. Buffalo with Runs was an very old Indian that was adopted by the tribe. He taught the Grasshopper what wild plants were safe to eat or use for medicines. He showed him how to set traps and hunt small game. Then, during one winter Gathering four people froze to dead because they were too stoned to come in out of the cold. The Grasshopper became very sad and hopped away.
The Ant is recruited by a Aerospace firm even before he graduated college and goes to work on the Apollo Program. He and his new wife Polly loved the Florida sunshine and settle down to start the American Dream. They decide to have two and half children. Even though the third kid looked a bit odd the Ant loved him as only a father can. With easy money down and mortgage tax deductions compliments of Uncle Sam, they get a house with a two car garage. Next they get two cars and the Rat Race is on. The Ant loves it! Working on the Apollo Program is more than a job, it is being part of history. Polly loves it! Raising their kids and Keeping up of with the Jones. She starts selling Avon products on the side. The Ant buys the best bass boat in the neighborhood, but only uses it once a year because he too busy working. He sets up his retirement funds and a small stock portfolio. Life is Good!
After leaving the Rainbow Tribe the Grasshopper panhandles his way across the country. He sets up in parks and subways where he pretends to play his fiddle while selling jewelry made of deer anthers and beads. The noise he makes with his fiddle sounds like a cat being killed and people give him money just to make him stop. Before the Cops run him off, the Grasshopper usually made enough in one day of begging to cover his needs for the week. When he is hungry he goes to a Soup Kitchen and when he needs clothing there are the Sharing Centers. Every now and then he lets some good hearted woman try to save him. Life is Good and he hops away.
The Apollo Program ends and the new Shuttle program does not start for a couple of years. The Aerospace company were the Ant works at does not win any of the new bids. They offer him a job in California at 20% less of his salary. Polly and the kids are in a rage. Nobody wants to move and leave their friends. The Ant sells his house at a loss because the real estate market in flooded by the laid offs. The one car and the boat are reprocessed. He sells off his stock portfolio for the down payment on the new house in California and even though money is tight the Ant decides to take the family on a short vacation to Key West to uplift their spirits. He finds the Grasshopper selling deer antler jewelry at the Front Street Market. While Polly and the kids go shopping, he and Grasshopper catch up and have a couple of beers. The Ant tells his friend about the laid offs and the move. The Grasshopper asks him - Are you Happy - ? The Ant says - Yes -. His friend says, - Good - . They watch the sunset and see a green flash on the horizon.
To be continue.
Shaken Faith
Posted by jgmomlove on 2011-09-05 14:58:10
Hello, I am a mommy of 2 ages 6 and 13 and a loving wife of 15 years. My husband and I are happily married and proud parents. He is a hard worker and good provider, I am a stay at home mom, our youngest has many health issues that prevent him from going to school, so I home school him. We are truly positive people with an abundance of faith. We seem to be that couple who everyone can turn to whenever they need help, whatever it may be. We always do our best to help others out...no questions asked. Unfortnately now we have fallen to the position of being the ones and need and seem to be all on our own.
This started nearly a year ago, we were living happily in a place we had always wanted to be. My husband worked a graveyard shift, one night while he was workin an intruder came into our home and brutally attacked me physically and more... Thankfully by the grace of God our kids were safe, one asleep and the older one kept her brother safe as she heard everything. Needless to say, we no longer felt safe in our home, and I was barely functioning. My husband did all he could to make us all feel safe. But the only thing I could think of is that we needed to move, and far away. So we did. We moved 3 hours away to our home town, hoping to find comfort in family. This is where our financial struggles began, a big sudden move like that nearly wiped us of our savings and my husband took quite a pay cut. But still the positives out wieghed the negative. Finally months later I began to realize I could turn this into something good, so I went back to school. With making less $ I was approved for financial aid. All was ok, and then this semester I went to register for school and I couldn't because they had overpaid me on financial aid so I now have an $765 balance that I have to pay before I can even get back into school. We had been relying on financial aid and student loans to help keep us afloat through out the year. Not even a week after that we were headed on an end of summer road trip and our truck broke down 175 miles from our home. We had to have it towed at $4 per mile plus an $85 hook up fee, so nearly $800. Now they are charging us another $400 to replace a part that cost only $80. So, the truck is still there. It seems now that every week something else keeps coming up. We just need help to catch up, just get over this slump. Our account is now in the negative because we have to get food and things just to get through the week. We have looked into payday loans, and I'm afraid that would just make matters worse. Especially since they only offer $300 which won't even cover the negative acct we already have. We've sold old clothes and other items we had on craigslist to help with gas and food. We are out of options now. We only need help or a loan to get through to January and by then with any luck I can get my financial aid and student loans. Any help is greatly appreciated. Its a horrible feeling to not know what is coming next or to know if we will continue to get poured on or if finally the sun may start shining again soon. Thank you for listening to my story.
Shaken faith...
Posted by jglove on 2011-09-04 12:58:16
This started nearly a year ago, we were living happily in a place we had always wanted to be. My husband worked a graveyard shift, one night while he was workin an intruder came into our home and brutally attacked me physically and more... Thankfully by the grace of God our kids were safe, one asleep and the older one kept her brother safe as she heard everything. Needless to say, we no longer felt safe in our home, and I was barely functioning. My husband did all he could to make us all feel safe. But the only thing I could think of is that we needed to move, and far away. So we did. We moved 3 hours away to our home town, hoping to find comfort in family. This is where our financial struggles began, a big sudden move like that nearly wiped us of our savings and my husband took quite a pay cut. But still the positives out wieghed the negative. Finally months later I began to realize I could turn this into something good, so I went back to school. With making less $ I was approved for financial aid. All was ok, and then this semester I went to register for school and I couldn't because they had overpaid me on financial aid so I now have an $765 balance that I have to pay before I can even get back into school. We had been relying on financial aid and student loans to help keep us afloat through out the year. Not even a week after that we were headed on an end of summer road trip and our truck broke down 175 miles from our home. We had to have it towed at $4 per mile plus an $85 hook up fee, so nearly $800. Now they are charging us another $400 to replace a part that cost only $80. So, the truck is still there. It seems now that every week something else keeps coming up. We just need help to catch up, just get over this slump. Our account is now in the negative because we have to get food and things just to get through the week. We have looked into payday loans, and I'm afraid that would just make matters worse. Especially since they only offer $300 which won't even cover the negative acct we already have. We've sold old clothes and other items we had on craigslist to help with gas and food. We are out of options now. We only need help or a loan to get through to January and by then with any luck I can get my financial aid and student loans. Any help is greatly appreciated. Its a horrible feeling to not know what is coming next or to know if we will continue to get poured on or if finally the sun may start shining again soon. Thank you for listening to my story.
Hope For me and My Sons Future
Posted by aprilmay81 on 2011-07-14 17:58:08
Help Disabled Man Save His Home and His Smile
Posted by willi on 2011-06-16 13:58:43
MENTALLY ILL! CAN'T WORK ON THE MEDICATIONS CAN'T WORK OFF THE MEDICATIONS!
Posted by mollymuledeer on 2011-06-04 22:58:05
My father was a schizophrenic my mother was a 1950's mom.
This was back in the early 1970's when people didn't know much about schizophrenia. The drugs made my dad really sick and he didn't want to take them. My mother, being from her generation, was ill prepared to deal with this kind of situation.
When I was 8 we moved to Woodstock, NY on my father's whim. Dad wouldn't work, so my Mom has to. I also have an older brother, Mitchell, who definitely picked up the mentally ill gene at an early age. After a time my Dad became really violent. He asked us all the time if we were afraid of him, but we were all too frightened to tell him "yes". my brother moved into a boy's shelter in town. He was 13 at the time. My brother got into lot's of fights. The night after the first time my father hit her, my Mom moved into a close-by seedy apartment to keep an eye on us kids, but my Dad wouldn't let her near us.
I was Daddy's princess which for some reason still makes me happy to this day. Being alone with him was a psychodelic nightmare. My Father told me that I was the Messiah(we're Jewish) returned to bring peace to the world. My Father said we would find the garden of Eden. I saw a lot of things that I'm sure couldn't possibly exist, but still think they were real.
It's difficult to explain what it's like to live with a schizophrenic. The person can be quite docile and then, on the drop of a dime, become a hideously violent person.
My father never physically hurt me, like he did my brother and my Mom. Nor did he ever molest me. my Dad did make me live in his mind like a cult makes you part of the group mind.
Eventually my Mother kidnapped me during the middle of the day from my elemenatarly school. She had got a legal separation from my Dad. He saw her car parked at a motel that night and kicked the door down. He asked me if I wanted to go with him or stay with her. I was 9 at the time, it seemed that the right thing to do was to go with my Mom, and my Dad agreed to let me go.
My Dad had visitation rights every weekend. He didn't show up the first weekend. We waited and waited.
The next weekend I slept in, not expecting him. Then, of course, he arrived. I knew it was going to be a bad deal.
The first thing my Dad did was try and kill me. He kept saying over and over, "why don't you love me!? why don't you love me!?" He was driving so fast and i was too small to see over the dash. He said, "if you don't love me I'm going to hit that tree and kill both of us!" I knew he meant it. We were going very fast but I got the car door opened and was going to jump it. He pulled the car door closed. I screamed, "Okay, I love you, I love you, I love you." and he slowed the car down.
We went to go have something to eat at some diner. We got back in the car and I promptly fell asleep and woke up in VIRGINIA.
Dad enrolled me in public school. I told the principle what was happening. The principle called my mother and she came with her father. The law at the time was if the kid was with you in a state, that kid was yours. But my Dad again did give me the choice to stay with him or go with my mother, and I chose my Mother.
At some point we moved down to Florida. My Dad was taking his meds so my Mom allowed him to follow us. Things went bad quickly and Mom called him from my Grandma's house around the street and told him to leave. When it was my turn to talk to him he asked me if I wanted him to leave to and I said "yes". He cursed me and said that he wished the same thing that happened to him would happen to me, and I'm not altogether sure it hasn't.
I've never really known how to relate to other people except tp people that are a lot like me. I'm being treated as bi-polar, but I have Boderline-Personality-Disorder and Post-Traumatic-Syndrome. I've taken classes that have helped me deall with sciety better. But the meds don't work so well. I have panic attacks being around people and hearing loud noises, which is at most jobs. I have trouble sleeping.
That was the last time I ever spoke to my Dad. He committed suicide a week later. My brother lives on the streets in Miami. And my Mom remarried somebody that is the exact opposite of my Dad.
At the end of my rope, and in dire need of help!
Posted by TheDutchFist on 2011-04-08 18:58:06
Basically, I grew up in and out of group/foster homes because both of my parents were heroin addicts. Before I was taken away from them at age four we lived in junky squat motels where my father would boost and my mother would prostitute to support their habit. Eventually they were both arrested for crimes committed to support their habit and that's when I was made a ward of the state.
For a brief period my father got out of prison, cleaned up, and I lived with him from when I was about 8 to 11. He got me out of the foster home I was living in, met a woman at the church he started attending and got a job as a truck driver. While he was gone at work she would beat me continuing the abuse I endured previously in the foster homes I was shuffled through. It didn't take long until he started using again, and we found out that he had contracted AIDS from sharing dirty needles while he was in prison. During the time he was sick I ended up having to take care of him every day after I got home from school because my abusive stepmother was either at work or would have nothing to do with him when she wasn't. Of course, he got progressively worse and my step-mom decided she no longer wanted to support either of us, so she stuck him in a hospice. I came home from school one day and the paramedics were loading him into the back of an ambulance. For the next month she would not tell me where he was or let me contact him. At the end of that month, she left me on the doorstep of my grandmother's house (mom's mom) and was gone.
My father died about 3 weeks after that, but because my biological mother was living at my grandmother's as well we did make daily trips to see him those last weeks. A small mercy being able to spend some time with him before he died. My biological mother had gotten out of prison after my father had and had moved in with my grandmother because she was trying to get clean, but that did not last long and while we would go visit my father she would cop dope and fix up my dying father in front of me, as well as use herself. A couple weeks after my father died she split back out onto the streets leaving me in the care of my grandmother.
Needless to say with so much turmoil in my life I freaked out at this point. My grandmother couldn't handle her newly teenage grandson with so many emotional problems and kicked me out because I was so unruly. I lived on the streets, in and out of group homes until I was about 16 where finally I landed in a well run group home with staff that actually cared about the kids that lived there until I graduated high school. I re-established contact with my grandmother and mother who was once again trying to get clean. That didn't last and when she was out on the streets this time caught a lengthy prison sentence.
When I turned 18 I had to leave the group home so I stayed with friends and lived on the streets for a while again, but eventually ended moving back in with my grandmother. Not long after that she ended up being diagnosed with lung cancer. I spent the next few years nursing her, taking her back and forth to chemo and radiation treatments everyday after working the night shift as a waiter. During that time my mother got out of prison, but could no longer run the streets because now she was diagnosed with emphysema.
My grandmother did have a brief remission, but finally did succumb to her disease. After that, my mother's disease started getting progressively worse and worse. To top it all off after that she herself was also diagnosed with lung cancer. Thankfully during that time I did have some help taking care of her because I found a wonderful woman who became my fiancée. We took turns taking my mother to her chemo and radiation treatments.
Now, there is a lot more detail to this story with many more ins and outs, but that is the general outline. I guess you're probably wondering where the begging comes in and what I need it for?
Ok, here goes:
During that time my fiancée's horse riding lesson business tanked, and because of the nature of my mother's disease someone always had to be home with her because she would fall asleep sitting up and choke her self to death so someone always had to be home with her precluding at least one of us from having a regular job. We got a small stipend from the state for taking care of her in home, and she would do web design and find odd jobs off of craigslist/the internet and that's how we'd survive every month.
Unfortunately it ended up not being enough to survive or get my mother to her treatments every day. She was on medicare and the closest hospital that would accept her insurance was 40 miles each way. So, she ended up shoplifting groceries for us and got caught. I bailed her out and we took care of her case, or at least we thought we had. Cut to 2 days ago, my fiancée and I are awoken by bounty hunters stating that she missed a court date and they had to take her in. Her bail is $20,000 because now she has a failure to appear, and since my mother died about 6 months ago she's been taking care of me and has been the sole bread winner like I was when her business was tanking.
Our rent was due 3 days ago and the manager of the extended stay hotel place we live at told me we needed to be out by yesterday. I have about $10 to my name and if I don't have $600 to him in the next day or two I am sure his patience is going to run out and me, and my two dogs are going to be out on the streets, my fiancée will not have a home to come back to when she gets out of jail, and we will lose all of our stuff. If any of these details are unclear of if you have any questions about my situation please do not hesitate to ask.
If there is anyone out there that is inclined to help us in any way our gratitude would be eternal. As I said, this would be a loan. We would both work to pay you back as quickly as possible and I am not opposed to working for it now if someone has work for me to do. Also, if anyone would be inclined to help bail her out we could pay you back even more quickly. Neither of us has any family to fall back on or ask for help so this is the last thing I could think to do.
Feel free to contact me any time, and I will get back to you as soon as I can! Thank you for reading this, and considering to help. My gratitude is immense and eternal.
-Jason
