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My name is Jason. I am a hardworking 28 year old married man with three wonderful children 7, 4, and 1 month old, and the best wife anyone could ever ask for. When I and my wife married we were “given” my parents’ home in NY along with the mortgage as a wedding present. My wife and I have spent the last three years renovating this home, dumping every single cent we had into its improvement. We both come from broken homes and both wanted something more than what we came from, and have managed to build a loving stress free environment for our family, and in a matter of a month my “family” (brother, mother and father) have managed to crush our dream out of selfishness and this, “the world owes me something” mentality they all seem to have.
I work full time and also do side jobs on weekends to make ends meet, my wife has been out of work on disability (she will return full time in the next 3 weeks) due to the birth of our son, which should be the happiest time of our life, and yet I get to go home and see my children upset wondering why there uncle is acting the way he is, I get to see my wife cry over the fact that we have been basically reminded that even though we pay the bill and we fix this home and have made it what it never was for me growing up an actual home, that it is not ours and we should have no say over what happens.
My brother who at one time made hundreds of thousands of dollars a year an selfish heartless drug addict, who even though has never treated me or my family with any respect I have always dropped what I am doing regardless of time or place to go “save him”, and by save usually picking his drug addict ass up and making sure he gets home, or dropping what I’m doing to take him to the hospital cause he is so sick from whatever he has taken this time. Now that brother has decided to move in with us, not ask, not offer to help, but blatantly tell me and my wife, “it’s not your house , I am not asking permission to stay here”, and my parents who told me this home was a “Wedding gift” seem to agree. They feel it’s okay for a drug addict to be living among children, that it’s okay that slowly one by one pieces of my wife’s jewelry are disappearing, or that since he came has literally taken over my infant sons nursery with his disgusting belongings that I found my wife sitting on the floor of the living room trying to feed the baby because he’s asleep on the sofa passed out cold and his belonging are strewn all over the house.
My only options are to buy this home that I and my wife have built a great life in so I can say who stays and goes, or to uproot my children and move as far from these selfish disgusting people as possible.
In order to purchase this home I would need a deposit upwards of 12000 which due to me draining my accounts my sons accounts and my wife’s to “save” my brother from jail, drug dealers, etc., we have nothing left. Which has led me here, led me to the point where I feel more dependent on asking strangers for help than my own family because they can’t even help themselves? I am the little brother (youngest of four) who has always had to be the big brother, I am the one one whose entire family drops there problems in my lap as if to say deal with it. I have been the pillar supporting every single family member I have for the last 28 years, the pillar has finally cracked and can’t hold up the weight of the world anymore. I am begging on my hands and knees for help from completer strangers so I can continue to give my children the life I never had, and offer them some stability instead of having to tear them from the home they have come to love, that my wife has come to love, that I love. I want to give my children the world but my family continues to assure that won’t happen under there watch. Please I beg of you with everything I am I need help. Please don’t make us just another statistic, I found my calling and made a life for my wife and children, I have put aside pride, because they are all that matters to me. Thank You for taking the time to read this and thank you for any support or help you can provide.

My name is Jason, I am 28 Years old and married with three children ages 7,4 and 1 month. When me and my wife married we were "given" my parents home in NY as a "wedding Gift"( home still had mortgage whcih we make the payments on) My wife and i have built a happy stress free life together, only to have it shattered, by drug addict co dependant family mmebers who feel since the home is still owned by my parents (although i pay the mortgage) they can come and go as they please. I have tried everything form asking them to leave , to having my parents ask them to leave, only to be reminded how its "not my home" and i cant make the rules. My wife and i are destroyed at the fact that anyone would tell us its ok that they are putting my childrene in danger or making my kids see there family members like they are. I have been to every bank possible in order to purchase this home from my family, only to be told that iven with anf FHA loan i will still need close to 12000.00 dollars to put down on this home in order to buy it, make it my own, and keep the people whos own selfinshness and obscured mental state is only adding to the destruction of a once happy home. My only other option is to move again from a home i love, that my wife and children love and move away from these people, or purchase the home (which was the plan originally) I now have a a family mmeber leaching off of us, refusing to leave because "its not my home" my wife is out of work on disability due to a recent surgery, she will be returning to work in the next 3 weeks, I have done everyhting for my family, dropped what i was doing at insane times of the night to go "rescue" my drug addict family members, emptied my chiuldrens savings accounts to "save" my drug addict family memebers, gotten loans in my name to save my drug addict family members, only to have it thrown in my face, I am the little borther who spent his life haveing to be the big brother, and i just cant anymore, all that matters to me is my children and wife and keeping them in a safe and stable home where they can have the life i did not,I know its a long shot and everyone has a sob story, but i have no where left to turn, please im begging on my hands and knees, forget pride i just want to save my real family, my wife and kids, they are all that matters to me. My children are in a good school district doing very well, i just dont know what else to do, thank you for your consideration, and any help you can give.

I am in desperate need of 12,000 dollars for a down payment to purchase the home, please, i have to turn to strangers for help, that has ecome the qaulity of my so called "family"

thank you all

Hi my name is Ashley and i am 23 years old, and i am a mother to a beautiful 2 year old baby girl alexandria. Every month i have a doctors appointment that costs $150, i am behind and owe 4135 and my next appointment is may 29th and by that time i need $285 to be seen. I am so ashamed to ask but if anyone out there could possibly help please please it would save my daughter and my life!!!!!!! i can try to pay you back little by little i just cant get the money up that quick with my little odd jobs. Please this is so very important and i swear i am not a drug addict or scam artist. please

In dire need of money to pay for my medication. Please contact me at mmroch78@gmail.com and I will explain in detail. In short, I am a recovering addict who has been doing extremely well until I was laid off and have been having extreme issues with paying my medical expenses. If I had 300$, I would be able to get by. I live in the suburbs of Chicago Thank you and God bless during this tough time.

Matt

Good Evening,

My name is Matt and I live in the west suburbs of Chicago. I am currently unemployed and finding it difficult to find even the most basic, menial job in this economy. While I have no felony convictions or anything that would bar employment, I am forced to rely on public transportation to get around at this time.

I am a recovering addict and I have been on methadone treatment for almost 5 years. I am on a low dose and I am having difficulty paying for my medication. I would like to be able to go to the clinic once a week instead of 5 times a week. This is hurting my ability to find work because I spend 3-4 hours on the bus going to the clinic.

I have a proven success rate in my sobriety and I just want to chip away at this awful bill hanging over my head. If I cannot pay for my medication I don't know what I will do. I can be reached at mmroch78@gmail.com. I can supply resumes as well to serious inquiries.

I have worked in call centers and related fields for the last 10 years, and I am warm, energetic customer service professional. I'd make an excellent ambassador for your company or small business, whichever it may be...

Both my father and I have been having very tough times, I am bi-polar but haven't had issues of any kind in quite a while. I just don't know what to do, my own parents are having money problems, and I don't have anywhere else to turn. I ask in the sincerest manner possible for any help you can provide: Pace bus cards (the monthly ones for 60$ are lifesavers), maybe 200-300$ towards my medication. I do have some things of value, mainly electronics that I can sell. Please contact me ASAP.

Thank you in this embarrassing time of need.

Kindest Regards,

Matt (5/6/12)

I'm a single mother aged 35. I've lived in California for almost 14 years ( it will be 15 this year on memorial day weekend.)
I’m going to be a little blunt, because I'm tired and I want to give up so bad, but I can't. I'm better than that and my kids are my motivator. I wake up everyday and remind myself of 2 things :1) Faith is what you have when you all your beliefs are blown to hell. 2) What doesn't kill you makes you stronger -Nietzsche

I am a 35 year old educated, ambitious, head strong woman. I have owned my own business with my soon to be ex. I know what hard work and determination are. I went to private school and I am educated. I value my community and have always given back and will continue to do so. I also know that I have the drive and determination to get myself back on track. I'm not ASKING for a handout, I'm asking for help up! I also know what loss is. I don't have the business, a house or EVEN the car anymore. We lost everything. He bounced back , I didn’t. All I have is HOPE, that someone or some program can help me carve a path back to self sufficiency.
It's gone continually downhill.I am amazed at the allotment of programs for both housing and employment for all different walks of life. However, what about those that are just struggling. No hang ups, no record, just struggling and are LOW INCOME. I'm not writing this to make you feel sorry, I'm writing this because I have exhausted possibilities that I have researched both on my own or been given the information to do the work with.
There are people who struggle everyday through no fault of their own. They don't want a hand out, but help up would be a relief. Society doesn't need band-aids they need solutions.
Not every county, city or state program fits everyone's needs.
First of all Section 8 has been closed since BEFORE I left my marriage so that idea could never work. The list has been closed for years. Because I have limited time with my children, I do not qualify for CALWORKS. I have tried getting assistance in every way possible. I had very little unemployment left since I have been struggling to find work. I was delayed for about 3 months because they needed verification and I had to appeal and request a hearing. I have won my appeal but will only receive $91/week and for a short period of time.
I took a project management class through WIA in 2011, and I was able to get CTB benefits. I NEED HELP. I have hit the absolute worst point in my life and still refuse to give up. I have been looking for work and am now HOMELESS.I am in week 3 of staying in an extended stay hotel (paid for by my mother back east, who makes maybe $26,000/yr in PA) I recently sold my car because I needed to pay bills and rent. I have maybe $75 to my name.
The fact that they say there are services for low income/ homeless is frustrating. I say this because there is no category for me. I'm not a drug addict or in recovery. I don't have a mental illness. I wasn't in prison, I don’t' even have a RECORD. I can proudly say I've never been arrested or even in the back of a cop car. I'm not a victim of domestic violence and I do not beat my kids. Why aren't there programs in place for single parents struggling to make it? Everyday people that are responsible and respectable. I understand the need to assist those that may not have the capacity to take care of themselves. However, I have a huge problem with the fact that Santa Clara County & all programs (private, govt or state funded) will rehabilitate and reintroduced felons into the community, but if you're poor, homeless, no record, are looking for work, have high intelligence; sorry, you can't get help. This sounds extremely cynical and jaded, but I am a little after going through all I have.
I have been told constantly “I wish I could do something but we don't have any programs to help you.” My favorite reply is: "Yeah and you have done everything. I'm surprised you even knew about all the programs you did"
I have talked to employment counselors, program coordinators, program advocates and case managers, volunteers, just about anyone. The bankruptcy is hindering my chances of securing housing, even if I had employment.

The icing on the cake has to be with food stamps and General Assistance. I qualified for Cal-Fresh. However, at the time I had a car worth $2200. So I wasn't able to get General Assistance. Fast Forward a year later, I HAD to sell my car to pay bills. Now this month when I went for General Assistance, I qualify.

It's a never ending cycle, a constant push down. I can take public transportation to work, but to get around and see my boys and being able to transport them would be extremely difficult, not to mention financially stressing. I have scoured employment books, read articles, searched the library, spent hours online trying to find a job, program, a company, anybody who could be a resource whether for low income assistance or employment.
I can probably tell you about a plethora of services this county (Santa Clara) offers for both income assistance and job services.I am registered with CALJOBS; I know all the career sites and have my resume there. I get interviews, however I am starting to think the bankruptcy from loss of business is holding me back when employers do background check.
I also could teach the business writing class or the resume writing classes they offer at Work2Future, I practically did when I took them. I could do the same at Sacred Heart. I've been to InnVision and EHC. I’ve talked to Sunnyvale Community Services. Boy he was a treat he sounded older then my 80 yr old grandma. When I said I need housing and employment help, he gruffly told me to check the newspaper and hung up. I've called St Josephs in Gilroy. I've talked to a program coordinator at West Valley Community Services. I called the Sobrato Organization hoping they had ties to something and one the employees just by grace of god happened to pick up and take my call. I was able to talk to someone at HIF (they couldn't help)
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I am responsible, respectable and just want to work, have a place to live, and be able to have my children 50/50. I have no police record. I am not in recovery, nor have I ever had to be in a program
I want to work and am attaching a compilation of ALL my work skills. I would not send this out otherwise, I would tailor it specifically to the job I am applying for.

I used to volunteer as much as I could I like being active in my community and helping others. I'm still about that I believe in PAY IT FORWARD. I believe the good you do comes back to you tenfold and that no matter what is going wrong in your life, someone else is struggling just as much if not more; so be thankful for what you have.
I attend church and was a hospitality volunteer for that as well.
I just need help getting on my feet. I have no family, other than my children here in CA.
I do not want to move back east and be far away from them. I want to work, I want to live again. I want to smile and mean it.

I hate what my life has become and know that I am SO MUCH BETTER THEN THIS.
Please help me : money is fine, but it's only a temporary fix, please help me find a program that can assist me in getting on my feet, direct me to employment, and most of all afford me the opportunity to have my children much more consistently so I can be a mom again.
Thank you
Courtney DiMiceli

I am a former teacher and recovering addict. I have 18 years clean and sober. I lost my teaching position paying 24.62 an hour Oct.2010 and have been trying to catch up ever since. My father left me a house and I took out a mortgage in 2005. My payments went from 700 a month to 1700. I was skipping a month and paying 3400. It cost me my marriage and my peace of mind. It was embarrasing and overwhelming. I now make 10.055 an hour. I turned in one car (volunteer repo) and now drive an 04 minivan. My power steering pump went out and the driver window is inoperable. I pay my van payment and repo payment monthly.I also pay child support for my 11yr old. I keep her regularly every two weeks and sometimes have nothing but conversation for her. I get no tax return because her mother claims her. I am also a disabled vet. I am in a bind and I can't borrow from my bank. I just need a little help and a push. I don't give up because I can't.

I'm 29 weeks pregnant with my third little boy! My other children are 10 years and 23 months. I've never been a person to ask for help, but now I'm begging for it. My husband was recently outted that he is a porn addict contacting escorts and I just couldn't take it and had him leave. I don't have a job as I have a very high risk pregnancy going on with preeclampsia and gestational diabetes and I have no family to help. I'm just trying to get by! I've applied for some help, but there are waiting lists. We need food, rent, transportation and diapers! Please help us!

I'm the girl who would give anyone the shirt off my back. Unfortunately, this has left me standing here needing my shirt back.

I'm single. I don't have any children. No one to support but myself. I'm educated. I'm not an addict or a gambler. My parents gave me all the tools I needed to be a successful contributor to society. So I should be able to handle this, right?

The hard lesson I've learned is that you can't give what you don't have. And sometimes, it needs to be okay to say no. A dollar here and there to the Ronald McDonald House, March of Dimes, Easter Seals, etc. = a good way to give to several worthy causes. A hundred dollars here and there to a friend in need, to the church, to the poor or other worthy cause = still doable. A thousand dollars (x4) to the jerk who broke my heart = big, huge mistake.

There are millions who deserve your compassion more than I do and I would encourage you to help them first. If after that, you have a little left over and can relate to the jam I've gotten myself into, I would appreciate any support you can lend.

I am swallowing every ounce of pride that I have in doing this. And I'm fairly certain it won't amount to anything but I feel I have run out of options. I just need to get my head above water and move forward.

And, though I've learned my lesson, I will make a promise to pay it forward (WITHOUT getting myself into the same situation again).

Thank you for your time!
Lisa

I am 26 yr old single male. Lost my job and have yet to find solid employment, its been over a year! Growing up I was the kid who had a job before anyone else, always working, always saving. Lately, like many other people it has been tough.

I need a job! Any job, doing anything! I have carpentry skills, computer skills, and sales experience. I dont have March rent and am subletting my apartment to get out of the lease. Where I go I am not sure. It has been so tough lately that eating 1 meal a day is a luxury. Today I ate left over french fries, about 1 servings worth. That was my breakfast, lunch, and dinner. I have no insurance, never collected a unemployment check, or govt check in my life. No car, no money. Losing hope.

I have $8 to my name. No checks coming in and I am really worried. Im not a drunk/ drug addict, just fallen on hard times. I never imagined myself being in this position. Never thought it would happen to me. I guess Im just reaching out for any potential job offers, Or help.

Sorry. Thank you.

P.S. I am in Chicago, and will travel anywhere for work. Or even telecommute. Anything...

Hi I am a student studying fulltime at college working towards a degree in admin/office tech, currently I live with my partner in a local authority rented flat. The government decided that £3995 was how much our household was entitled to claim and that was mostly a student loan and small bursary. We have applied for many other grants and been refused. We are now in debt with our rent, gas and currently feel like we are both going hungry too much. The government are more than happy to pay for anything for you if you are a heroin addict or alcoholic or have 6 children but someone who wants to better themselves by studying to earn a living has very little help. Its no wonder the uk is in such a state with unemployment when people are encouraged to become mothers to get benefits and houses, or encouraged to be a junkie. PLEASE if anyone out there can help in any way please donate and help me to stay in education and get the career I deserve.

hi i am 33 year old women with 2 kids..11 years ago i was a herion addict and have now sorted my life,have 2 lovely kids and have been clean for 10 years.due to the drugs i used to take my teeth have all almost fallen out..my nhs dentist has done nothing to help.i feel like 10 years on and i am still paying for my mistake..i would love to be able to smile at my kids without putting my hand over my mouth and i would love to have a family picture done with my kids but wont while my teeth look so bad...any sort of help would be wonderfull and thank you so much for reading this...i am saving money myself but i cant afford to save loads..by time i saved money it be 7 years but i will keep saving so any little bit would help please...xx

I am 30 years old , over the last 6 years i have suffereds a lot of ery stressful times in my life and along the way managed to get myself into some severe debt, i now owe £40,000 and am currentli in an iva , however i am struggling to keep up the repayments , i have worked very hard from the age of 18 and would neber want to be out of work ,i grew up on a council estate but worked hard to get a good job and earn enough money to be in this siyuation for the rest of my life, i have had many personal tradgedies in my life including abuse as a teenager, i have a brother who is a aloholic and drug addict , i lost another brother to cancer three years ag0 (This is when the majority of my problems began) , my father hs suffered several strokes over the last ten years, i feel as though i have worked extremely hard over the last fifteen years to ensure a better life for myself , however due to stress and depression due to the above have found myself in a very regrettable situation, i would very much like to get back on track and be able to begin to enjoy the simle things in life again , a nd one day even begin a family of my own which i desperately desire , however this will not happen for a long time due to my financila circumstances....finding life has dealt me too many bad cards ...and feel i deserve a little happiness

:'( my mother has been unemployed for 2 years now. Last year I started baby sitting for a 2 month old baby boy. His mother is a heroin addict and she started leaving him with us for months at a time. My family is attached to him now and we treat him like our own . He is now 1 and we are also taking care of his 2 year old brother. The boys do not have any one except for my family. My step dad is the only one working and money is very tight. My mother has an amazing heart and puts everyone first. I do not like asking for money but times are so hard . Our electricity bill was
1000$ and this year for christmas we had to scrounge up money to buy the boys presents. I didn't get anything for christmas this year but im happy the boys got to have a real christmas. Please help me im begging you.

I am a single father with two little girls. The mother of my oldest is a drug addict and is under investigation by her county. She is at risk of loosing her children... I try to restrict my daughter from going to her home, but I can not afford daycare so I can go to my college classes and work when she is not in school. please help... There is MUCH more that I am dealing with. However, I dont want to go into more detail on this website. If you are interested in helping, please contact me and I can fill you in.

Thank you,

Our Car was repoed when my husband was injured by a drunk driver. The med bills were more than the mere 10 thousand settlement and left us broke. He was always a good provider and worked hard from age 16. I was offered a full-time job but I need a good used car to get me to work that won't leave me owing repair bills. We have a 21 year old son who has autism and a 3 year old granddaughter we care for. Please help me to help my family. I was offered a job a a food service worker(cook) in a large unionized supermarket. If I get a car I already have the job and am supposed to start soon. I have no one who can loan me car and no one to give me a ride to work.I was just given an awesome job and I love to cook. If I can get there to this job, our lives will change for the better and I can help my husband, children, and granddaughter.QAlso , the people who "bought" our mobile home are indefault and owe us 6.700 dollars and we are about to get kicked out of our home as we depended on the contracted money owed to us and the buyer is a drug addict crack-cocaine user refusing to pay. It will take money and time to go to court and I need to pay my bills and feed my family in the mean time. Please help me I beg you. Contact Kim at 610-703-1452

Well, I've really screwed myself over, haven't I? No gas in my car to travel to the nearest food bank, and no change to take public transportation to one. I'm not a foolish drug addict, more like I'm just foolish. 22 years old female. Been sleeping in the back of my car for about 2 months now and I just seem to be making things worse for myself with bad decision after bad decision. Guess I'm just not cut out for this life. But I don't want to give up. Any money you can donate would make a world of difference. Blessings.

I have recent found out my husband is a drug addict. He has put us so far in debt that right now I can't seem to keep my head above water. I have been so hurt and deceived. I have done this with him before, and I will not, can not put my daughter though this again. I need to get him out of my house. With that said, until I can get on my feet I really need some help. I have my rent covered but not food and bills. If anyone reads this and can donate just a small amount, I would be so grateful. This is my second post, I had no success the first time. My phone will be disconnected this week and I have no way to pay it. Please someone help me get myself and my daughter out of this mess. God bless. Heather

I am a single working mother and have been supporting myself and my son for the past 8 years. His father is a terrible alcoholic. He has begun using crack and has prostitutes to his home when my son visits him. I am now trying for full custody. I have to pay the lawyer $7000 to take my case. I do not have the money. We are barely able to pay the rent each month. If you are able to help in ANY way I would be very grateful. My son is only 11 and I fear what will become of him if he still has to go there. Prayers are appreciated too! Thanks.

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