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I recently lost my job and was forced to give up my apartment and move back in with my mother, who lives in another state. I had nothing to do with her for a number years, as she was/is extremely abusive, but being unemployed and close to homelessness I was running out of options and she promised she'd changed and would help me get back on my feet. Unfortunately she lied, and my life has been hell ever since. She refuses even to let me leave the house and constantly tells me how worthless I am, and keeps me up half the night screaming at me. I don't have any friends to turn to and at this point I'd rather be homeless than deal with my mother anymore. I understand there are lot of people on here who need help, but all I'm asking for is a Greyhound bus ticket so I can finally escape. I've looked online and a ticket would cost about $200 from where I am to New York, which is where I used to live. But any assistance at all would be greatly appreciated!!! I'd also pay you back as soon as I was able to. Thank you.

hi my name is tanya and i need money to help move back home i am just out of an abusive relationship and have hardly any money i would appreciate the help i have 2 kids 2 and 5 and if i can get back home to maryland my family will help me out but i need about 1500 for the trip once again i appreciate any help have a great day and god bless tanya

Lets see. I am 20 years old and living in Austin TX-for 2 years now. I am a ballet dancer training with the Austin Ballet. I have been dancing for 14 years. I was adopted along with 7 other siblings in my family, due to abusive and addictive birth parents. My dance teachers are the reason why i am still dancing, paying for tuition, shoes, ect, because my family of 10 already struggle enough finiacially. I graduated early from high school and moved away and now I was acccepted into a school in New York! Alvin Ailey School for modern and ballet, it is unbelieveable how big a chance this is. And now I'm looking around, seeing as I can't even buy a plane ticket let alone be able to support myself all summer into the fall. Things in Life happen for a reason in the most unexpected ways. I am asking to help get me to New York. I havn't been home to see my family in 2 years because I have not been able to afford to fly home to see them, but its the sacrifice we must make to do what we love. Thank you for listening, and I can't wait to give to others the way so many have helped me in this journey we call life. I have less than a month to be in NY, along with paying for rent and bills.....

Hello, I am so uncomfortable doing this. I am a 42 year old woman with two wonderful toddler boys ages 3 and 2. My troubles started in 2010 during my pregnancy with my second child. I became very sick and the doctors were unable to find the cause. During the search for a cause I was diagnosed with Lymphoma, but the cause was finally identified when I gave birth two months prematurely. I will not go into graphic detail, but I came out of the hospital 7 weeks later,with shortbowel syndrome and other serious problems. My son thankfully was fine and is thriving. I worked for a government agency for 16 years, and suddenly found myself surviving on disability. I must add that my husband was not much of a help. We are currently seeking to get divorced after 5 years of marriage. Through my illnesess he has been verbally, emotionally and on occasion physically abusive. I prolonged the divorce due to my health conditions and he is a good father to our children. My, what I thought was an upstanding, husband lost his job in 2009 and has not worked since but some small jobs. Even though he has worked, he has barely contributed to supporting the family. I have managed to keep the family afloat by paying the critical bills. What I haven't been able to pay is:

*our monthly condo maintanence fee of $258.00 for the past 3 months.
*I have a $160.00 car insurance payment due on 6-10-12, this will keep my paid until 10-10-12.
*The divorce attorney is asking for a $2500.00 retainer.
*June health insurance of $555.00.
*The numerous unpaid medical expenses.

I make it happen with the rest of the things my boys and I need. In July of 2012 I will recieve Medicare, since I will then have been on disability for 2 years. I think that will make things somewhat easier on me. As a note, lymphoma is not being treated right now. Thank goodness the nodules have remained stable, though if there is any change I will probably have to start some sort of treatment.

Any kind of help would be greatly appreciated. Since almost dying in 2010, I have a renewed faith in God (though I have always been a believer). I know that God walks beside me and my children and the He watches over us. Prayers to all that are on this site, whether asking for help or giving it.

hello my name is tessa i have a 4 month old daughter i am stuck in tennessee i came up here to get away from my abusive husband and the people where im staying says i have a week to find somewhere to go i have no vehicle no job and no where to go if u could please help me so that i could get a vehicle and tag and insurance and a first month payment on an apartment or something i would greatly appreciate it it would probly range in around to 2,000 to 3,000 dollars i just need enough to get on my feet so that i can find me a job thank you so much it would be greatly appreciated very much

That is exactly where I am at right now. I have been married as of April twenty-one years to a man that was verbally and mentally abusive. Yes, I put up with it for all those years which is for me to deal with but it did make me burn out finally. There are friends that have asked me how I put up with it and I don't know. Anywho, I have made it through this month which is six months and the divorce still won't be final for a while since there are details about the property that are up in the air for now but have ended up turning my finances upside down to the point I cannot even get gas to do my work. I have sold things and did everything possible to keep going but I am worn out from even that. I need any change you can spare so that I can get turned back around and be able to put things back on track.

I don't know where to go or what to do. I've left an abusive relationship and need to be living on my own. I left all my belongings and everything i know and now i'm staying at a Women's shelter. it's really scary here.

I'm also a university student Who's tuition is being paid by my abuser..I only have 1 term left before graduation and hope of a real job and life on my own. All I want in life is to be a nurse... i'm so close. My name is Holly. I pray for somebody's help. I don't have anyone to depend on but me. My graduation day is August 28th/2012 and I would love for the person who helps me to be there.

sincerely,
holly

Mom of 3 kids. Daughter 14. Two sons 10 and 8. Just left an abusive 5 yr relationship and proud. Struggling tremendously due to my hysterectomy I just had due to cancer right after my split relationship I was down 6 wks. Monday will be my times up and I can return to work....I am in desperate need of help to pay my bills this month and keep my head up for myself and kiddos!I am an honest hard working single momma who needs a one time lifeline! Thanks so much!

I need money for an apartment. I am currently living with my ex boyfriend because I would otherwise be homeless. He is emotionally and physically abusive and it is extremely difficult living with him. He wants me to move out as soon as possible, but no later than the end of July. I found an apartment for $700 a month, but need a few thousand to move in--deposit, furniture, two months rent.

I have a job but I barely make enough to pay my bills. I can't even buy myself groceries. I apply for other jobs every day and never get them. I am a college graduate and am intelligent and would appear to be pretty normal if you saw me at the store. But I have slept in my car when my ex boyfriend has kicked me out at times and I fear I will be living in it soon. It wouldn't be too bad, I guess, but I have cats and it's impossible for my cats to live in my car.

I am a good person and always try to help other people whenever I can. I just need a little help now. I have no friends or family anywhere in the area and I feel hopeless. I have had a hard life, from an abusive childhood to where I am today, but I am strong. I am positive about my future, if only someone would be willing to help me today.

Even a very small amount would be appreciated.

I am faced with an impossible request I think. 3 years ago I was a strong, confident woman, 13 credit hours away from a BS in Biology with plan of going to graduate school. I was in an extremely abusive relationship with a man that I had to assist authorities in putting in prison. The same man left his daughter in my custody under the pretenses that her mother had abandoned her. I cared for her for two years as the only mother she knew before I found out that he had in fact kept her from her real mother and I had to return her to her biological mother. That same man sent people after me to attack me later and forced me to fear for my life. I still do.

I now understand that I was dealing with a psychopath.

After that man was incarcerated I tried to rebuild and began a relationship with another man who later went to prison for a charge that he accepted for someone else basically. While he was incarcerated my best friend of over 20 year died of unknown and still unexplainable causes. Once the man that I was with came home I then suffered two miscarriages.

I am told by my physicians that the constant state of being in a heightened and frightened state caused post traumatic stress disorder which led to an anxiety disorder coupled with daily panic attacks and agoraphobia.

Due to my condition I lost my job and no longer have health insurance. I am unable to drive or leave my house 90% of the time. I have been hospitalized on several occasions in an attempt to control the anxiety and depression that seem to only be getting worse. I feel over medicated but still as if nothing is working.

My physicians have suggested a residential psychatric program that would last approximately 30-45 days to assist me in in getting a handle on these conditions and assist me in regaining control of my life. However these programs are all self pay even if I did have insurance and range from 40-60,000 for the complete care in a facilty that can handle both the medical and therapeutic side of psychiatric care.

There is simply no way that I can accomplish this, but I feel as if I am slipping away and I am scared that I will never come back.

I just want my life back. To be free from these nightmares, this panic, these fears and to not live my life on medications that due nothing but make me a zombie. I had a life and a plan, I was going somewhere, and now I can't even leave my house for weeks sometimes months at a time.

My parents have basically been placed in financial ruin to assist me during this time, and they can no longer assist me. I am scared beyond words, If I don't find a way to get help, to get better, I fear for what will happen to me, how I will live, pay bills, work, be a functinal member of society.

I feel that committing to a residential program as suggested is my only option left, my only option for survival. I am desperate and scared. But I don't know how to accomplish what seems to be the only hope.

Please Help, someone please throw me a rope, I am desperate, lost in a dark pit somewhere, I can't see out, there seems to be no way out......I need a rope.....Please help.

i need help to get out of an abusive relationship,i've never done this before but i have no where to turn.right now i'm unemployed,cause im not allowed to leave or have my own money,my boyfriend controls all the money in the house,even the spare change.all of our vehicles are in his name so if i try to leave he can say i stole them and have me arrested.i cant turn to friends the only ones he allows me to have are ones he picks that will tell him if i try to leave,and hes isolated me from my family.i dont want to let me sons grow up watching their mother getting beaten anymore,and shelters aren't an option where im at,i cant take much more,any little bit will help,thank you in advance,i have a paypal account you can email me if you need to.

I need to get money together to leave an abusive relationship. please help. I don't know how much longer i can take it.

I have anxiety disorder, sometimes raging agoraphobia and also fell in 2007, causing two vertebrae to bulge and also did some nerve damage to my left arm. I suffer from severe back pain, hip and leg pain everyday and I drop things with my left had constantly! I tried and tried to push on, through the pain and depression I had but finally cracked and I was laid off in 2010 from my job for not being able to handle the pain or the pressure and stress and shortly thereafter met a guy who I will call Jake. Jake has panic disorder, agoraphobia and dependent personality disorder. His family had abandoned him, his friends had become fatigued with his panic attacks. He was in a bad situation being abused by someone who was taking advantage of his disabilities. My mother had over 20 years of suffering this type of illness and was in an abusive marriage, and I had had my own issues with anxiety and depression so I felt I had to help. I invited him to come live in my home. I told him I would do all I could to help. I arranged some free therapy. Introduced him to my friends and family. Gave him all the kindness and love I had in me.

I had hoped it would help. It has not. He is still depressed, still agoraphobic and the worst part for me, still has dependent personality disorder. Now for those who don’t know what this is, well it means I can’t leave the house without him and naturally he can’t leave the house without me. We have not been more than 50 feet from each other in the year he has been here. He can’t go and do anything like movies, bowling, shopping or anything like that so I can’t either, when I myself feel able to do any of those things that is. Don’t feel sorry for me though. I have fallen in love and this is a small sacrifice to make sure he is okay.

We both applied for disability five months ago but it is still working through the process. My unemployment ran out six weeks ago so we have no more income and to make matters worse my father who has early onset dementia with psychotic features had no where else to go so he is living with us now. This has all put serious strain on me. How to pay bills with no money? How do I help this man I love get better? How do I get my sick dad, who has no one else to help him get to appointments with doctors and therapist when I can’t leave the house myself? How do I get better?

I am in serious need of help. I need to be able to at least keep the house and keep the lights on. I don’ t know what to do. I am lost. There is no help for someone who tries to help others. I called the department of family and children services and asked if there was any government program or even charity they knew of that I could apply for help with and they acted like I was a crazy person. She was like, “I’m sorry, I don’t know what to do for you.”

I am out of savings and my bills are due. I have appealed to family and friends but they are all strapped themselves. I have sold my van, a computer and anything else I had around my house to survive but I am tapped out. Now I am here, depressed and hurting all the time, my friend is here, depressed and we both are having a lot of anxiety. My dad is here and has no where else to go and I am so scared. I have never been in a situation where I had not only my life but the lives of others in my hands and I can’t do anything.

I feel helpless, hopeless and sometimes think it’s not worth going on. I just need some help making my bills for now until disability comes through. Then some of my stress will be reduced. Some that is. But that is most pressing right now. Like I said, keeping the lights on and a phone and car going in case of emergencies.

On top of everything I feel so alone. I have to try and smile because I don’t want my friend or dad to worry. I won’t them to know I am gonna be here for them and not let them down. But I don’t know where to turn to get the help so that does not happen. I am afraid. I am scared. I am depressed and stressed. I need help.

I am begging for my friend. Lisa is a wonderful mother of 4. She has had a tough life and had to overcome many hardships, one of the biggest was helping her 5 year old daughter battle leukemia. She is separated from her emotionally and physically abusive husband and raiding her two youngest children alone with no financial help. She was just diagnosed with an extremely rare form of uterine cancer and had to undergo two very major surgeries and is now recovering.
Lisa has done so much for her family and friends over the years, she deserves to have something given back. She is in very serious financial trouble right now and her utilities have been shut off. She has not been able to work and her ex is not helping. Any financial help would be appreciated. Her dream is to take her children on a vacation to Universal Studios in Florida. Her children have been so brave and supportive of her, she would like to give back to them.

I cannot believe I am asking for money on a site like this, but I don't have any other option. I am 21 years old and live on my own, away from previously abusive parents. I have no family I can ask for help or I would not be here. I work at a ski resort and on December 2011 I was injured in a snowboarding accident off the clock when another rider slammed into me, breaking my jaw. As I spat up blood from the rips in my gums as my jaw displaced, the rider got up and rode away. Despite the accident was not my fault, I am still paying the medical bills. My hospital bill was $1500 with x-rays and the surgery was $5000 to have my jaws wired shut. I applied for under 21 medicaid for help after the accident (turned 21 in march) but you can only make about $550 monthly to be eligible! I am barely able to pay my bills as I don't make a lot and already lived paycheck to paycheck. I spent up my savings and checking to get by and pay off medical interest. I don't expect my bills to magically disappear here, but anything helps. Thank you, and God bless.

I never thought i would find myself in this situation, never thought i would have to ask complete strangers for help but here goes...
I recently left an abusive partner after several years, the relief is undescribable. Unfortunately during the relationship i was naive enough to take on the majority of his debt. I have managed to secure myself a new place to stay however im now drowning in bills from my old accomodation i shared with him. Im stuck between paying for my new place (and thus securing my freedom and new life) and clearing what i owe on the old place and being free of the past.
I cannot afford to do both, and im in real trouble if i do not pay off bills from the old place.
So im begging you good people for help, i hope that someone out there can help me.
Many thanks for your time reading this post

When I purchased this home back in 2004 after finally getting away from an extremely abusive marriage, all I could see was that the price was right and that I would finally be safe - hundreds of miles away from my now ex-husband. As a single mother of 3 children on a limited income, I saw how I would be able to live completely mortgage and rent free. I didn't however see the major repairs that this house required - nor did I have the money to make such repairs. Over time, of course things got worse - and it brings me up to the point of where I am today.

The roof on this house is so badly deteriorated that it is leaking very badly in the downstairs bathroom, dining room, kitchen and front door areas. It has leaked so badly that now mold has started to form in the bathroom ceiling and the drywall has slowly been falling away on the one wall. The slightest wind and you will find shingles blown off and laying on the ground. The roof is so bad that I am fearful that even the boards underneath the shingles may need to be replaced.

Realize that this is my last resort in trying to come up with the funds required to get this new roof. I have tried applying to government grants for home improvement but unfortunately I do not qualify because 1. my property taxes are not paid up to date (I owe approximately $2000 just in property taxes), and 2. the size of the house is larger than the specified guideline parameters. Nor do I qualify for a loan of any sort as 1. I make a mere $200 a month working and 2. have bad past credit (being a single mom has taken some serious tolls on me - including financially!).

So the goal here is to get a new roof installed - and as soon as possible so that any further damage to the house is avoided. I also worry about the mold forming in the bathroom especially and one day the roof caving in in there. While my children have grown to teenagers now, I still have to worry about their health.

I have uploaded pictures and this story at Chip-In to show you the extent of the damage done especially in the bathroom area - and a view of the shingles as they are right now on the roof. Admittedly I realize that my house also needs some repair on the stucco, windows and such but right now my main concern is the roof. I'm surprised it hasn't caved in on me by now.

I thank everyone in advance for helping me with this. I do not normally like asking for help from anyone but at this point I am finding that I have no other alternative.

Please view photos of the damage, etc at my Chip-In page at http://escapetofreedom.chipin.com/imperative-home-repairs

I need to get back to Houston Texas from Idaho. I moved here with my youngest two children and my oldest opted to stay and graduate with the people she knows and in her support system of teachers. It wasn't easy, but I had to get out of the abusive situation. It breaks my heart not to be able to get there to see her graduate high school. She has some emotional disabilities and it's been a challenge. Being there for her this time would mean the world to us. She misses us. I would bring here back with me and get her away from the elements here that eat kids like here alive. She has endured so much and going for graduation also would mean i would be there to travel back with her. Total cost is about $1400. I'm selling what little i have, as two kids a dog and i moved here with just a mini van of stuff 6 months ago.Any help at all...
Thank You so much.

Hello my name is Mel and I am in emergency need of financial assistance as I left my job to finish my college degree last year. All was going well as I am 27 years old and I have my own place, car, and am very independent. My boyfriend was living with me for free and he drained my funds including my 401K retirement account that it took me seven years to build. The intention was he was going to pay me back and find a job as he was fired last July. Unfortunately, he never even tried. I spent all of my money around Christmas time spoiling his three children in which I was not allowed to be a part of their lives. He left me two months ago for their mother who is abusive and I have never been in such a bad financial situation in my life. I have managed to sell some of my belongings to cover last months rent. I am now actively looking for full time work and may have to not finish my Bachelor's degree in Sociology and I only have one semester left at the University. It is my goal to stand strong on my own two feet and I will do everything in my power to come back up from this and not let it bring me down. Any and all donations will help me until I can find employment as the economy is so bad I cannot find a decent job in my trade of Accounting/Office Management in my area. The good thing is once you hit the ground there is only once place to go from there and that is back up. I have no where else to turn or I would not be posting this on here. I hope that you can help someone today after reading this because there truly are genuine people out there in the world they are not all scammers. I happen to be one of the realest people, that is how I got in this sticky situation. God Bless you all.

Hello my name is Mel and I am in emergency need of financial assistance as I left my job to finish my college degree last year. All was going well as I am 27 years old and I have my own place, car, and am very independent. My boyfriend was living with me for free and he drained my funds including my 401K retirement account that it took me seven years to build. The intention was he was going to pay me back and find a job as he was fired last July. Unfortunately, he never even tried. I spent all of my money around Christmas time spoiling his three children in which I was not allowed to be a part of their lives. He left me two months ago for their mother who is abusive and I have never been in such a bad financial situation in my life. I have managed to sell some of my belongings to cover last months rent. I am now actively looking for full time work and may have to not finish my Bachelor's degree in Sociology and I only have one semester left at the University. It is my goal to stand strong on my own two feet and I will do everything in my power to come back up from this and not let it bring me down. Any and all donations will help me until I can find employment as the economy is so bad I cannot find a decent job in my trade of Accounting/Office Management in my area. The good thing is once you hit the ground there is only once place to go from there and that is back up. I have no where else to turn or I would not be posting this on here. I hope that you can help someone today after reading this because there truly are genuine people out there in the world they are not all scammers. I happen to be one of the realest people, that is how I got in this sticky situation. God Bless you all.

Hello my name is Mel and I am in emergency need of financial assistance as I left my job to finish my college degree last year. All was going well as I am 27 years old and I have my own place, car, and am very independent. My boyfriend was living with me for free and he drained my funds including my 401K retirement account that it took me seven years to build. The intention was he was going to pay me back and find a job as he was fired last July. Unfortunately, he never even tried. I spent all of my money around Christmas time spoiling his three children in which I was not allowed to be a part of their lives. He left me two months ago for their mother who is abusive and I have never been in such a bad financial situation in my life. I have managed to sell some of my belongings to cover last months rent. I am now actively looking for full time work and may have to not finish my Bachelor's degree in Sociology and I only have one semester left at the University. It is my goal to stand strong on my own two feet and I will do everything in my power to come back up from this and not let it bring me down. Any and all donations will help me until I can find employment as the economy is so bad I cannot find a decent job in my trade of Accounting/Office Management in my area. The good thing is once you hit the ground there is only once place to go from there and that is back up. I have no where else to turn or I would not be posting this on here. I hope that you can help someone today after reading this because there truly are genuine people out there in the world they are not all scammers. I happen to be one of the realest people, that is how I got in this sticky situation. God Bless you all.

Hello my name is Mel and I am in emergency need of financial assistance as I left my job to finish my college degree last year. All was going well as I am 27 years old and I have my own place, car, and am very independent. My boyfriend was living with me for free and he drained my funds including my 401K retirement account that it took me seven years to build. The intention was he was going to pay me back and find a job as he was fired last July. Unfortunately, he never even tried. I spent all of my money around Christmas time spoiling his three children in which I was not allowed to be a part of their lives. He left me two months ago for their mother who is abusive and I have never been in such a bad financial situation in my life. I have managed to sell some of my belongings to cover last months rent. I am now actively looking for full time work and may have to not finish my Bachelor's degree in Sociology and I only have one semester left at the University. It is my goal to stand strong on my own two feet and I will do everything in my power to come back up from this and not let it bring me down. Any and all donations will help me until I can find employment as the economy is so bad I cannot find a decent job in my trade of Accounting/Office Management in my area. The good thing is once you hit the ground there is only once place to go from there and that is back up. I have no where else to turn or I would not be posting this on here. I hope that you can help someone today after reading this because there truly are genuine people out there in the world they are not all scammers. I happen to be one of the realest people, that is how I got in this sticky situation. God Bless you all.

Hello my name is Mel and I am in emergency need of financial assistance as I left my job to finish my college degree last year. All was going well as I am 27 years old and I have my own place, car, and am very independent. My boyfriend was living with me for free and he drained my funds including my 401K retirement account that it took me seven years to build. The intention was he was going to pay me back and find a job as he was fired last July. Unfortunately, he never even tried. I spent all of my money around Christmas time spoiling his three children in which I was not allowed to be a part of their lives. He left me two months ago for their mother who is abusive and I have never been in such a bad financial situation in my life. I have managed to sell some of my belongings to cover last months rent. I am now actively looking for full time work and may have to not finish my Bachelor's degree in Sociology and I only have one semester left at the University. It is my goal to stand strong on my own two feet and I will do everything in my power to come back up from this and not let it bring me down. Any and all donations will help me until I can find employment as the economy is so bad I cannot find a decent job in my trade of Accounting/Office Management in my area. The good thing is once you hit the ground there is only once place to go from there and that is back up. I have no where else to turn or I would not be posting this on here. I hope that you can help someone today after reading this because there truly are genuine people out there in the world they are not all scammers. I happen to be one of the realest people, that is how I got in this sticky situation. God Bless you all.

Hello my name is Mel and I am in emergency need of financial assistance as I left my job to finish my college degree last year. All was going well as I am 27 years old and I have my own place, car, and am very independent. My boyfriend was living with me for free and he drained my funds including my 401K retirement account that it took me seven years to build. The intention was he was going to pay me back and find a job as he was fired last July. Unfortunately, he never even tried. I spent all of my money around Christmas time spoiling his three children in which I was not allowed to be a part of their lives. He left me two months ago for their mother who is abusive and I have never been in such a bad financial situation in my life. I have managed to sell some of my belongings to cover last months rent. I am now actively looking for full time work and may have to not finish my Bachelor's degree in Sociology and I only have one semester left at the University. It is my goal to stand strong on my own two feet and I will do everything in my power to come back up from this and not let it bring me down. Any and all donations will help me until I can find employment as the economy is so bad I cannot find a decent job in my trade of Accounting/Office Management in my area. The good thing is once you hit the ground there is only once place to go from there and that is back up. I have no where else to turn or I would not be posting this on here. I hope that you can help someone today after reading this because there truly are genuine people out there in the world they are not all scammers. I happen to be one of the realest people, that is how I got in this sticky situation. God Bless you all.

i am a single mother of a one year old boy. we recently left an abusive home. i am in debt thousands of dollars. have no running vehicle. no home to call our own. extensive healthcare that is life threatening ,if not handled asap...i just want to be able to be around for my son...provide for him and love him... handle my overwhelming dental and medical care issues, and find a safe home for the two of us aswell as our two dogs. i never thought that i would be posting in such a way asking for help...but things have become very saddening and tough... any type of assistance that could be offered would be deeply appreciated. bless you for taking the time to read my words. XO