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I don't know where to go or what to do. I've left an abusive relationship and need to be living on my own. I left all my belongings and everything i know and now i'm staying at a Women's shelter. it's really scary here.

I'm also a university student Who's tuition is being paid by my abuser..I only have 1 term left before graduation and hope of a real job and life on my own. All I want in life is to be a nurse... i'm so close. My name is Holly. I pray for somebody's help. I don't have anyone to depend on but me. My graduation day is August 28th/2012 and I would love for the person who helps me to be there.

sincerely,
holly

Been thru hell and back with an abuser.......he's gone and I have begged and pleaded with employers for a job but i have no work experience. I am 96 days over due......my church has gratefully kept my lights on. My mortgage is 585 a month and i only owe 26k! I have not survived this far to go on the streets with my son. I am begging anyone who can give me work or donate PLEASE HELP ME......
ps i can clean,cook,babysit

I have always been starting from the beginning and optimistic trying to accomplish something in this country (CROATIA), regardless of that this system is pushing me at the bottom literally in all the ways. I have fought bravely and honestly, until I found myself in a situation that I am no longer alone and need to provide life to my daughter. After divorce from a violent husband who left us on the street without a cent I’ve lost everything I had no incentives to pay kindergarten and school, schoolbooks, etc. I came into a situation that I must either pay the bills or school and credit. I enrolled and studied computer science for 4.5 years, but for financial reasons I have never finished it though for the end I have to pass few exams. I was hopeing to get a better job for myself and bigger salary. I have been working 2 jobs for 18 years and but I can’t pay my bills and food . My girl is only 9 years but she’s the one of the best in her class, she’s singing, danceing, acting and have a lot of success in all of that. But she has a problem with her violent father. He took her on 20.08.2011. on a vacation that turned into horror. He drinks, beats her and threatens her not to say that she wants to go home. I don’t have anybody to ask to help me in this. However, we do not have funds nor for lawyers nor for such ventures. I am considering about that the daughter and I move to another city and start life all over again, but unfortunately, for that funds are also needed. Please believe that even the smallest donation would help us begin the fight with a windmill and provided us with a small chance and hope that following years we will be able to live normally. I want to continue working and fighting, and with my own hands keep feeding this little family consisting of my daughter and me. However, I cannot begin without funds and in debts. We in Croatia as single parents, that is legal representatives of a child after divorce, have no financial aids, donations or grants, except the child allowance, which is approximately 26 Euros per month. I do not want to complain or write letters of 10 pages, and believe me I have printed them in hundreds (about that I am writing my first book - "Our million beginnings"). I am writing only out of fear for my child and the fact that I am aware that I must take her away from the father abuser as soon as possible. Honestly, I do not expect anything but I must try on, one way or another, to realize for my child a better life. Thank you in advance.
I’m sending you our documentation like reference for psychiatric care for my child (http://www.poliklinika-djeca.hr/english/) and other doc. If it needed.
Sorry for my bed english. Best regards,

I have always been starting from the beginning and optimistic trying to accomplish something in this country (CROATIA), regardless of that this system is pushing me at the bottom literally in all the ways. I have fought bravely and honestly, until I found myself in a situation that I am no longer alone and need to provide life to my daughter. After divorce from a violent husband who left us on the street without a cent I’ve lost everything I had no incentives to pay kindergarten and school, schoolbooks, etc. I came into a situation that I must either pay the bills or school and credit. I enrolled and studied computer science for 4.5 years, but for financial reasons I have never finished it though for the end I have to pass few exams. I was hopeing to get a better job for myself and bigger salary. I have been working 2 jobs for 18 years and but I can’t pay my bills and food . My girl is only 9 years but she’s the one of the best in her class, she’s singing, danceing, acting and have a lot of success in all of that. But she has a problem with her violent father. He took her on 20.08.2011. on a vacation that turned into horror. He drinks, beats her and threatens her not to say that she wants to go home. I don’t have anybody to ask to help me in this. However, we do not have funds nor for lawyers nor for such ventures. I am considering about that the daughter and I move to another city and start life all over again, but unfortunately, for that funds are also needed. Please believe that even the smallest donation would help us begin the fight with a windmill and provided us with a small chance and hope that following years we will be able to live normally. I want to continue working and fighting, and with my own hands keep feeding this little family consisting of my daughter and me. However, I cannot begin without funds and in debts. We in Croatia as single parents, that is legal representatives of a child after divorce, have no financial aids, donations or grants, except the child allowance, which is approximately 26 Euros per month. I do not want to complain or write letters of 10 pages, and believe me I have printed them in hundreds (about that I am writing my first book - "Our million beginnings"). I am writing only out of fear for my child and the fact that I am aware that I must take her away from the father abuser as soon as possible. Honestly, I do not expect anything but I must try on, one way or another, to realize for my child a better life. Thank you in advance.
I’m sending you our documentation like reference for psychiatric care for my child (http://www.poliklinika-djeca.hr/english/) and other doc. If it needed.
Sorry for my bed english. THX to all good people!!! Love!

Hi there...
The whole idea of asking for money makes me sick to my stomach. I have never been a beggar or a person who wanted charity. But I honestly have no other choice anymore.
My story starts in 2009 with my ex girlfriend, whom would turn out to be the worst thing that ever happened to me. I'm not going to play the blame game, because I have forgiven her since. However I am left with the lasting damage of that relationship.
We had dated when we were young, she had cheated with a friend and I had left her, but i always loved her most of all and was eventually able to forgive her later. I was a fool for love. This is where the trouble starts, we had begun to talk again in early 2009, and soon a relationship developed between us once again. By this time she had a daughter who was 7 years old. I moved to another state to be with her and her daughter, after awhile I loved her daughter as my own child. I took her fishing with me every chance I had. I did not realize it before I had went down there, but her family was a real problem. They took to controlling every aspect of her life, even going as far as taking her mail out of her mail box and reading it. From the very start I has hated, I could not be controlled or told what to do, though they tried. Later in the year I was working and I thought things had improved, they grudgingly accepted me.

I am not a cruel or an evil person, I am always firm but loving when it comes to discipline. There had started to be problems at school and home, with tantrums, and destructive behavior. My ex and I talked about it and we tried everything, nothing seemed to work save simple old fashioned spanking. When she threw a tantrum one day and wrote that she hated us and left it on a note where we would surely find it, and broke her own window in her room. I knew something had to be done, this was totally unacceptable. So I spanked her, not hard or vicious like i got when i was a boy. But just my hand. I left a red mark, not welts or bruises a red mark. Of course being a little girl, she tended to talk and tell everyone EVERYTHING. She told her grandmother about it, and that was it for me, suddenly i was this horrible terrible person. My ex and I quarreled about it a great deal and I left for awhile just to get my head around things and see if it was worth saving.

I decided to leave, and I went home back to indiana where i was from, I left with a broken heart, but i knew the situation couldn't be fixed.
There were other things going on at the time I did not become aware of until later, one was that my ex was pregnant. She later admitted to me that she had been smoking while pregnant, drinking, taking more and more prescriptions, and when she finally told me about it she told me she was glad she had miscarried.
I have never forgotten that statment.
Now here is where the real trouble begins and why I am in such desperate need.
The child told her teacher, and child services became involved, as they always do and will for any reason.
Eventually it got turned over to the sheriff's office to see what they wanted to do with it. Now enters the grandparents into the equation.
The pushed it hard even against my ex's wishes, and managed to get them to file charges for child abuse and issue a warrant. A warrant I didnt even know i had until christmas time 2010. I was picked up and detained for extradition over it. The following monday I was released, I was informed that they didnt want to come get me. I called my ex, and she told me that she had told them to drop it, we talked and talked, she begged me to forgive her for all that happened, and eventually i did, for some reason I still felt like i couldnt live without her. So we continued to talk up until july of 2010. When something happened, grandmother got curious wondering what these numbers were on the cell phone bill. She confronted my ex and she told her that she had talked to me. Ever since that point I have this "open case" listed publically on my record. After about 10 interviews I discovered that was the reason I couldn't have a job. Who would want to hire a "child abuser" anyway? Here it is febuary its been about 8 months without work. I lost my place, and nearly everything i own, I even lost the will to live. I live with my parents now, and I know im a burden to them. I'm thinking about it everyday. It is tax refund time now, and I have half of what I need for my lawyer to try and fix this horrible mess. He is of the almost certain opinion this will be completely dropped, and I can have a job again, and recover somewhat of a life. If you can help please help, I am a desperate man, and I want my life back, I need it back, I cant take not being able to work, and being a burden to my parents who are dirt poor!

Dear all,
Thank you for showing your interest and reading my story.
The saying about foolish middle age women is not a myth. I’m one of them. My name is Pat.

To make a long story short; my partner I met when I was 41, succeeded in 2 years to gain total control over me, my life and everything I ever worked for. He did it so cleverly and smoothly that I didn’t even noticed when I had simply nothing, no one and nowhere to go.

When he had me in his hand, he turned from a gentle, clever, kind and loving man into a tyrant, abuser, dipsomaniac and sadist. When my paralysis and apathy got to big I obviously was no sport anymore. One day he took whatever suited him (mine, his or gained together) and left me with piles of unpaid bills, debts taken in my name I didn’t know of and far too high rent for one person to carry.

But I’m a fighter! I’m a survivor. I decided that I’m blessed to be alive and will honour it with doing my best or even more to straighten up my life.

I have been struggling night and day since he left and I have succeeded to secure my electricity, heating and water supply. At Christmas eve I was thanking in prayers that I could afford a little food. I welcomed New Year’s toasting with myself with a small soda (pure luxury…). I started to see the light in the tunnel, gaining back my self-esteem and seeing that everything will be solved.

Until this morning.

My landlord (a big company, impersonal and no one to talk to) have informed me that there is a 3 months’ rent debt he was obliged to pay but never did and also he took out a deposition of 3 months that entitles to live in the flat.

If I don’t pay it ASAP I’m out in the streets. And I will be. He has misused my credits so I’m marked in all the systems; no loans, no flats, no telephone, no credits, not even a Visa, nothing.

Please, help me. I have no one to turn to. No family and what friends would be left after all the dramas, his manipulations and deceits and my absence? I refuse to give up but honestly – I don’t know how long I will have the strength.

Anything will be of help. Anything since I have nothing. I beg you. And you know – see it as an investment; Can this be solved I can’t see anything that can’t, and then It will be my turn to pass the generosity and helpfulness to the next needing person. And I will! To do that though – I have to survive.

Thank you for reading my story. If you can’t help – do at least learn something from it. Don’t repeat my mistakes.
God bless you all!/Pat

I have always help my family friends and strangers in need of a place to stay, food, ride, money clothes ect. Well due to a move, divorce from an abuser and surgery, I thought things were looking up when I got my career moving for a non profit senior resident center, then after a year offered a great position in management for a nursing home but this is a rural community and I did my job well. Due to the economic environment I was let go and my old job already replaced me. Im on unemployment. If I can move to a bigger city, like near los angeles (I have a free place to stay) then I will never be without a job. Currently I volunteer my time with hospice and driving seniors to their doctor appts and errands. My car is old but paid for I need auto repairs in the amount of 2,000; dental work 800; Relocation expenses to move to California 6000; and a job masters degree in healthcare in san fernado valley California I have a paypal account or you can send the money directly to the vendors in kind to me. My dad is a retired veteran from Vietnam era, he works for above minimum wage and I live with him currently. He gets his retirement too but he needs a new fence for his house, I helped with all thee renovations but being unemployed I can offer the labor but the materials are about $2500.00 or $4500 installed he would never ask for a handout but he also needs extensive dental work and replace his implants front teeth from 40 years ago from accident his smile means everything to me. With that said once im able to get back on my feet and return to work, I will be able to help others too! Thankyou for any assistance you can provide in these matters .

After almost a year of denying that I truly am a victim of domestic violence, making excusses and all, I was shown pictures of what was done to me and oh my goodness, I was in shock, and sitting back and looking at what I have been through for the past few years made me wake up. Even though my abuser is not around at the moment, he has made many threats, I am needing to get to a safe place, I know where I am going, just need the funds to do it. I have 8 year old child that I need to get in a safe and happy enviorment. I've been told that we are being watched and that scares me. I need to get out of here Asap. Please anything to help would be grateful. I have a 2 bedroom w/ basement house I need to pack up and get out. I have until Feb. 01, 2012 to be able to get out safe. I NEED HELP with money to get a moving truck and fuel. Please if you know any companies out there that would help, please let me know. if you need proof of this abuse I can do that. Merry Christmas everyone!!! PLEASE HELP, I am scared for my son and myself...

Hello,

I am a single mother with 3 children and have been on disibility since 2004. I recieve no child support from my children's father, because he was abusive and it is safer to not keep contact with him. I broke my leg last year from the very last final attack from my abuser. My leg has not healed properly and my health has been getting worse. I am afraid for my children, because the only family they have is me. I recieve medicare and have to pay a premium, and we barely have enough left to survive. Because I have three children, I cannot afford to pay the deductibles for my healthcare services to get in better health so I can work to provide a better life for them. I am losing all my teeth and I am only 31. I have been through a lot in my life, but unfortunately it is my kids who also have to pay for my misfortunes. Please provide help for my healthcare expenses so that I can live a better quality of life with my 3 beautiful blessings.

We also are in need of home repairs, and I would love to be able to provide activities for my children for sports, music and the arts, so that they can build a good foundation within themselves to succeed in life.

Thank you so much for your kindness to me, or anyone that you may help out on this site. God bless.

Sincerely,
A forever greatful mother.

Hello,

I am a single mother with 3 children and have been on disibility since 2004. I recieve no child support from my children's father, because he was abusive and it is safer to not keep contact with him. I broke my leg last year from the very last final attack from my abuser. My leg has not healed properly and my health has been getting worse. I am afraid for my children, because the only family they have is me. I recieve medicare and have to pay a premium, and we barely have enough left to survive. Because I have three children, I cannot afford to pay the deductibles for my healthcare services to get in better health so I can work to provide a better life for them. I am losing all my teeth and I am only 31. I have been through a lot in my life, but unfortunately it is my kids who also have to pay for my misfortunes. Please provide help for my healthcare expenses so that I can live a better quality of life with my 3 beautiful blessings.

We also are in need of home repairs, and I would love to be able to provide activities for my children for sports, music and the arts, so that they can build a good foundation within themselves to succeed in life.

Thank you so much for your kindness to me, or anyone that you may help out on this site. God bless.

Sincerely,
A forever greatful mother.

Hello,

I am a single mother with 3 children and have been on disibility since 2004. I recieve no child support from my children's father, because he was abusive and it is safer to not keep contact with him. I broke my leg last year from the very last final attack from my abuser. My leg has not healed properly and my health has been getting worse. I am afraid for my children, because the only family they have is me. I recieve medicare and have to pay a premium, and we barely have enough left to survive. Because I have three children, I cannot afford to pay the deductibles for my healthcare services to get in better health so I can work to provide a better life for them. I am losing all my teeth and I am only 31. I have been through a lot in my life, but unfortunately it is my kids who also have to pay for my misfortunes. Please provide help for my healthcare expenses so that I can live a better quality of life with my 3 beautiful blessings.

We also are in need of home repairs, and I would love to be able to provide activities for my children for sports, music and the arts, so that they can build a good foundation within themselves to succeed in life.

Thank you so much for your kindness to me, or anyone that you may help out on this site. God bless.

Sincerely,
A forever greatful mother.

Hello,

I am a single mother with 3 children and have been on disibility since 2004. I recieve no child support from my children's father, because he was abusive and it is safer to not keep contact with him. I broke my leg last year from the very last final attack from my abuser. My leg has not healed properly and my health has been getting worse. I am afraid for my children, because the only family they have is me. I recieve medicare and have to pay a premium, and we barely have enough left to survive. Because I have three children, I cannot afford to pay the deductibles for my healthcare services to get in better health so I can work to provide a better life for them. I am losing all my teeth and I am only 31. I have been through a lot in my life, but unfortunately it is my kids who also have to pay for my misfortunes. Please provide help for my healthcare expenses so that I can live a better quality of life with my 3 beautiful blessings.

We also are in need of home repairs, and I would love to be able to provide activities for my children for sports, music and the arts, so that they can build a good foundation within themselves to succeed in life.

Thank you so much for your kindness to me, or anyone that you may help out on this site. God bless.

Sincerely,
A forever greatful mother.

Hello,

I am a single mother with 3 children and have been on disibility since 2004. I recieve no child support from my children's father, because he was abusive and it is safer to not keep contact with him. I broke my leg last year from the very last final attack from my abuser. My leg has not healed properly and my health has been getting worse. I am afraid for my children, because the only family they have is me. I recieve medicare and have to pay a premium, and we barely have enough left to survive. Because I have three children, I cannot afford to pay the deductibles for my healthcare services to get in better health so I can work to provide a better life for them. I am losing all my teeth and I am only 31. I have been through a lot in my life, but unfortunately it is my kids who also have to pay for my misfortunes. Please provide help for my healthcare expenses so that I can live a better quality of life with my 3 beautiful blessings.

We also are in need of home repairs, and I would love to be able to provide activities for my children for sports, music and the arts, so that they can build a good foundation within themselves to succeed in life.

Thank you so much for your kindness to me, or anyone that you may help out on this site. God bless.

Sincerely,
A forever greatful mother.

Hello,

I am a single mother with 3 children and have been on disibility since 2004. I recieve no child support from my children's father, because he was abusive and it is safer to not keep contact with him. I broke my leg last year from the very last final attack from my abuser. My leg has not healed properly and my health has been getting worse. I am afraid for my children, because the only family they have is me. I recieve medicare and have to pay a premium, and we barely have enough left to survive. Because I have three children, I cannot afford to pay the deductibles for my healthcare services to get in better health so I can work to provide a better life for them. I am losing all my teeth and I am only 31. I have been through a lot in my life, but unfortunately it is my kids who also have to pay for my misfortunes. Please provide help for my healthcare expenses so that I can live a better quality of life with my 3 beautiful blessings.

We also are in need of home repairs, and I would love to be able to provide activities for my children for sports, music and the arts, so that they can build a good foundation within themselves to succeed in life.

Thank you so much for your kindness to me, or anyone that you may help out on this site. God bless.

Sincerely,
A forever greatful mother.

Hello,

I am a single mother with 3 children and have been on disibility since 2004. I recieve no child support from my children's father, because he was abusive and it is safer to not keep contact with him. I broke my leg last year from the very last final attack from my abuser. My leg has not healed properly and my health has been getting worse. I am afraid for my children, because the only family they have is me. I recieve medicare and have to pay a premium, and we barely have enough left to survive. Because I have three children, I cannot afford to pay the deductibles for my healthcare services to get in better health so I can work to provide a better life for them. I am losing all my teeth and I am only 31. I have been through a lot in my life, but unfortunately it is my kids who also have to pay for my misfortunes. Please provide help for my healthcare expenses so that I can live a better quality of life with my 3 beautiful blessings.

We also are in need of home repairs, and I would love to be able to provide activities for my children for sports, music and the arts, so that they can build a good foundation within themselves to succeed in life.

Thank you so much for your kindness to me, or anyone that you may help out on this site. God bless.

Sincerely,
A forever greatful mother.

Hello,

I am a single mother with 3 children and have been on disibility since 2004. I recieve no child support from my children's father, because he was abusive and it is safer to not keep contact with him. I broke my leg last year from the very last final attack from my abuser. My leg has not healed properly and my health has been getting worse. I am afraid for my children, because the only family they have is me. I recieve medicare and have to pay a premium, and we barely have enough left to survive. Because I have three children, I cannot afford to pay the deductibles for my healthcare services to get in better health so I can work to provide a better life for them. I am losing all my teeth and I am only 31. I have been through a lot in my life, but unfortunately it is my kids who also have to pay for my misfortunes. Please provide help for my healthcare expenses so that I can live a better quality of life with my 3 beautiful blessings.

We also are in need of home repairs, and I would love to be able to provide activities for my children for sports, music and the arts, so that they can build a good foundation within themselves to succeed in life.

Thank you so much for your kindness to me, or anyone that you may help out on this site. God bless.

Sincerely,
A forever greatful mother.

Hello,

I am a single mother with 3 children and have been on disibility since 2004. I recieve no child support from my children's father, because he was abusive and it is safer to not keep contact with him. I broke my leg last year from the very last final attack from my abuser. My leg has not healed properly and my health has been getting worse. I am afraid for my children, because the only family they have is me. I recieve medicare and have to pay a premium, and we barely have enough left to survive. Because I have three children, I cannot afford to pay the deductibles for my healthcare services to get in better health so I can work to provide a better life for them. I am losing all my teeth and I am only 31. I have been through a lot in my life, but unfortunately it is my kids who also have to pay for my misfortunes. Please provide help for my healthcare expenses so that I can live a better quality of life with my 3 beautiful blessings.

We also are in need of home repairs, and I would love to be able to provide activities for my children for sports, music and the arts, so that they can build a good foundation within themselves to succeed in life.

Thank you so much for your kindness to me, or anyone that you may help out on this site. God bless.

Sincerely,
A forever greatful mother.

Hello,

I am a single mother with 3 children and have been on disibility since 2004. I recieve no child support from my children's father, because he was abusive and it is safer to not keep contact with him. I broke my leg last year from the very last final attack from my abuser. My leg has not healed properly and my health has been getting worse. I am afraid for my children, because the only family they have is me. I recieve medicare and have to pay a premium, and we barely have enough left to survive. Because I have three children, I cannot afford to pay the deductibles for my healthcare services to get in better health so I can work to provide a better life for them. I am losing all my teeth and I am only 31. I have been through a lot in my life, but unfortunately it is my kids who also have to pay for my misfortunes. Please provide help for my healthcare expenses so that I can live a better quality of life with my 3 beautiful blessings.

We also are in need of home repairs, and I would love to be able to provide activities for my children for sports, music and the arts, so that they can build a good foundation within themselves to succeed in life.

Thank you so much for your kindness to me, or anyone that you may help out on this site. God bless.

Sincerely,
A forever greatful mother.

I'm 52 years old and suffer from severe bipolar disorder. As a result trying to find a job with few skills is difficult. I don't drink (am in AA), am not a drug abuser, don't have a criminal record. My obligation in life is keeping my aging Black Labrador/German Shepherd happy, fed and healthy. Some days my depression is overwhelming and I can't see a future. I don't need much, just a few dollars here and there to sustain Homer and I. Any help is most appreciated. I am sincere about my problems. I live in the Vancouver, Canada area. Thank you and God bless.

This situation has been going on for my entire life. Now that I am 21 I can understand it a little more and instead of feeling helpless, I want to take action and help my father get better. I grew up in a dysfunctional family and I have had no role model or support my entire life, I have practically raised myself. I have moved out and I am putting myself through school and I don't rely on anyone for help but I really need help when it comes to this. My father is an alcoholic/drug abuser and that's what his life revoloves around, he can't support his own kids let alone himself. My little sister is in high school and still lives with him but she shouldn't have to go through the emotional stress and abuse he causes. My younger sister has to work to try to support herself because he spends all of his money. Instead of being a normal kid she has to figure out how she is going to pay for her own car, school, and more importantly food like I do. I do buy her groceries and help her out I can deal with that but I cannot pay for the help my father needs. This has to stop and if I don't take action now no one else will and his life is going to stay in a downward spiral. I really would love to have a father in my life and I don't want to wait until it's too late. He needs rehab and I know it costs alot of money, I have no idea how much but If I can just get some help besides relying on my own income I could make this possible. Please, please help me I cannot do this alone.

Hi I never do this but Im in serious need.... My 5yr old daughter and I need 300 to pay the rent owed so we dont get kicked out of our apt. I am currently working 2 jobs and am in school. We are domestic voilence victims (her dad was a crazy drink and did aweful things to us), that have recently fled from our abuser and now were in desperate need of help. she has been through enough and im scared that we will lose our only safe place....

Thank you for reading and for your time.

HELLO IAM A SKILLED UNEMPLOYED MIDDLEAGED WOMAN FOR REASONS UNKOWN I AM NOT FROM THE MIDWEST HOWEVR THIS CHRISTMAS I AM GOING TO HAVE TO SPEND IT ALONE PLEASE IF YOU CNA SEE IT IN YOUR HEART I NEED A GOOD COAT SIZE 20 (NEW, USED) & BOOTS I USED TO BE ABLE TO GET A LITTLE SPENDING CHANGE BUT THE AUTHORITIES SIAD I HAD TO MOVE ON IN THE CITY I EVEN USED TO PASS BY WHEN I WORKED THE IN AREA I AM NOT A SUBSTANCE ABUSER I AM AN UNEMPLOYED WORKER I HAVE NO SMALL CHILDEN I HAVE SELF RESPECT I USE RX I AM AN OLD WOMAN WHO HAS BEEN TREATED NOT INTELLIGENTLY I AM RELOCATING TO TAKE CARE OF MYSELF I NEED ONLY THE BARE NECESSITIES CAN U HELP THIS CHRISTMAS SEASON AN OLD LADY WHO HAS ONLY HERSELF TO CARE FOR IN A NOT VERY INTELLGENT AREA? a gift card to a nice store would be okay i am not with handouts and sells recyclables rech me at harumbi0@lycos.com